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Jaudrum

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Wow, so much information on this site!

I realized how many times I have references this site in the past 6 years while looking online for information on polyamory! I always feel better knowing there are other people around. Everyone I am close to here is monogs and i have a hard time talking to them about relationships.

I :
-am a single parent of 2 kids separated from the father 6 years ago
-am in the process of redefining a relationship of 4 years that started mono and opened up 2.5 years ago and now is going from open to poly...
-have a couple long distance lovers i see very rarely, a few crushes and potential dates but nothing solid or regular since we have been open.

short story:
both my partner of 4 years and I feel stuck and unsatisfied with the boundaries we placed on our open relationship but they seem to exist because of trust and commitment issues, lack of experience etc

so I'm trying to find some answers to these problems so we can actually feel free to love others.

but it's the long story that's got all the juicy details...

I also just love gossip and I'm happy to read all your exciting, inspiring and sometimes frightening experiences!
 
Greetings Jaudrum,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Re:
"I also just love gossip and I'm happy to read all your exciting, inspiring and sometimes frightening experiences!"
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Eheh. You must go straight to Life stories and blogs. For extra inspiration: Poly Vignettes: Sharing Success & Happiness. For extra fright: the Poly Relationships Corner.

I am also interested in your juicy long story so if/when you post it, gimmie a link to it on this thread.

I'm always happy to answer questions to the best of my ability and others will be too. Boundaries are made for periodic renegotiation but perhaps a bit more of a road map will help with that process.

Good to have you with us, I hope we can be of help.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
Thanks for the tips Kevin!

And for sure fellow gossip lover,
I'll post the link to my juicy gossip here for you to follow :)
 
Welcome Jaudrum!
 
Jaudrum said:
short story:
both my partner of 4 years and I feel stuck and unsatisfied with the boundaries we placed on our open relationship but they seem to exist because of trust and commitment issues, lack of experience etc

so I'm trying to find some answers to these problems so we can actually feel free to love others.
Click to expand...

Do you and your partner have clear ideas of exactly what your boundaries are supposed to accomplish and how and why you are dissatisfied with the results? If you can both identify the problems each of you feel is there, in detail, and understand how you react to and are affected by those problems, perhaps you will be able to find other ways to address them.
 
Thanks for the blog link Jaudrum. :) I checked it out and posted there, check it out.

Hope you and SM work things out; communication is a big part of it!

Regards,
Kevin T.
 
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