Help! Newbie question.
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No. You do not HAVE to meet him and hang out with him or be involved with him in any way. Nobody can make you.
To me ethical polyamory means everyone is consenting to be there -- it's not like secret cheating going on. Easy enough to me to do a 5 min call or email exchanging contact info and that yes, I am aware and I am willing to be here. That is all it needs to be.
Besides, should something happen to your shared sweetie, then whoever she was with can call the other one to let them know. That's considerate.
Galagirl
To me ethical polyamory means everyone is consenting to be there -- it's not like secret cheating going on. Easy enough to me to do a 5 min call or email exchanging contact info and that yes, I am aware and I am willing to be here. That is all it needs to be.
Besides, should something happen to your shared sweetie, then whoever she was with can call the other one to let them know. That's considerate.
Galagirl
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Hi Jess,
Re (from OP):
No ...
... although your girlfriend and her husband might consider it a rule that you have to meet him. Then you'll have to decide whether you'll abide by their rule.
Meeting him is likely to be a good idea. Building a friendship with him can be helpful in many ways. But check and see if your girlfriend and her husband have a rule that you'll eventually have to become sexually involved with him in some way!
Re (from OP):
No ...
... although your girlfriend and her husband might consider it a rule that you have to meet him. Then you'll have to decide whether you'll abide by their rule.
Meeting him is likely to be a good idea. Building a friendship with him can be helpful in many ways. But check and see if your girlfriend and her husband have a rule that you'll eventually have to become sexually involved with him in some way!