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Springwater

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Hello,
Me and my husband have been Poly for 3 years now.
We don't know anybody in a similar situation.
Would be nice to speak to like minded people x.
 
Greetings Springwater,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You will find many like-minded people here, so anything you'd like to say, go ahead and post it. Let us know if you have any questions. I'm glad you could join us.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Welcome to the forum!
 
Hi Springwater - and welcome to the Forum! We will look forward to hearing more of your story. You will find lots of folks of folks here in similar situations to talk to (at least by post or private message). Please feel free to post any specific questions and thoughts that you may have to the Poly Relationships Corner or General Poly Discussion - these sections are always quite active. We have a number of experienced poly folks here who are generally friendly and helpful - so you are very likely to get a response. Best of luck on your continuing poly journey! Al
 
Thank you for the welcomes :)
Nox can I ask what V means please and Al what does ldr mean?, I have had no interaction with anyone in
a similar situation so I don't know the lingo :D
I am going to get my husband to join as he generally has a lot more questions than me.
I am 28 and he is 26 and we have basically been poly for our whole relationship.
It all stemmed from me being in a very controlling relationship for 8 years, so after that I vowed not to change myself for anyone again x
 
Springwater,

Poly, like most lifestyles and subjects, has indeed developed its own vocabulary and shorthand.

Following are two links to poly glossaries - one here on our forum, and the other at a respected poly web site.

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1720

https://www.morethantwo.com/polyglossary.html

LDR stands for "long distance relationship".

A "V" (answering for Nox) is a poly relationship in which one person (the "hinge" of the V) has a relationship with two different partners (the "legs" of the V) and in which the the two legs are not involved with each other romantically or sexually. The two legs are said to be "metamours" (or "meta" for short - the partners of your partners.). Metamours may be as close as best friends or not even know each other - although they must be aware of each other or it is not poly ("knowledge and consent" being defining characteristics of polyamory). General poly consensus seems to be that it is best if the metas at least know each other and meet at least once, whether they are friends are not - but not "required".

If the two legs are involved with each other also - then the relationship is not a V but a triad - in which all 3 partners are involved with each other. (Think of a triangle instead of a V).

Hope this helps - and don't hesitate to ask any other questions that you may have. Al
 
Wow!
That is a lot to get my tiny brain around :D
I will have to re read as I am still confused, I'm sure I'll get it.
Thank you so much for your reply x
 
Springwater said:
Thank you for the welcomes :)
Nox can I ask what V means please and Al what does ldr mean?, I have had no interaction with anyone in
a similar situation so I don't know the lingo :D
I am going to get my husband to join as he generally has a lot more questions than me.
I am 28 and he is 26 and we have basically been poly for our whole relationship.
It all stemmed from me being in a very controlling relationship for 8 years, so after that I vowed not to change myself for anyone again x
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Al got you taken care of, I think. I hope you're enjoying all the information.
 
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