HI Everyone . accidentally poly ? is that a thing?

hvychevy20

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Hi every one im not sure where to start here . First thanks for this forum it has been a great help for us so far . I joined a while back but thought it was about time to introduce my self and my fiance and our girl friend. We are all new to the poly lifestyle

J:so first me in am a early 30s male recently engaged to T .Straight
T: fiance of J and gf to H . I am early 20s female and in my last year of collage and so excited to be moving forward with my life . BI
H: GF of J and T mid 40s female. full time professional woman part time farm girl . i would say straight but bi curious

We all kinda fell in to the poly thing by accident but really we all know that is never really the case . I J have always had girlfriends but at the same time had friends that where girls . I originally met H some years ago we dated but it didnt work for a few reasons that dont apply to this introduction but no doubt we loved each other . We broke up but not messy and stayed friends . I dated a different girl for about a year and it ended for a few reasons but one of which was me having a friend that is a girl . When this ended H called me and said i have some one you have to meet . This was T . love at first sight for both of us . The relationship progressed and the time came where T would be taking night classes in collage . Because of infidelity on her exs part in the past T was worried about me J not having some one around . She said to me one day what do you think about having H come hang with you while im at school . This is where i should add T and H have been very close for years . Im like um u want me to spend time with another woman alone ? T said yes you all are great friends and i think it would be great . I guess as they say the rest is history . Sorry to leave things out . I know i have but this after all a intro not a book . We know from some reading we have done the way our relationship is structured is i believe what they call a triad? . We are monogamous between the 3 of us . If any one has questions we would love to answer them
 
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Greetings hvychevy20,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Indeed it sounds like you have a triad, and the great thing is, it sprouted up organically, it was not masterminded ahead of time. The "organic triads" are the ones that usually last.

So when T suggested you hang out with H while T was at school, did T expect H to become your girlfriend? or was it more like H was just a friend at the time and the situation evolved?

In any case, I'm glad you could join our site.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Thank you for the welcome . No when it was suggested that we spend time together it was just as friends . It was not expected of implied that she would be my girlfriend at all . Like you said it was and is very organic. things just evolved through honest open communication and love for each other .
 
Thasnk you . We are very happy with it . Part of the reason we joined here was to get advice on some things in poly life from others . We have meet a few people local that are in to the life style but feel we that we dont quite fit in lol.
 
Welcome! One suggestion I have is to ditch the initials - give everyone an actual nickname. It's too difficult to follow or remember initials. :)
 
Thank you Bluebird . That sugestion sounds great! I can def see what your sayin about being had to follow . so humm ok come up with a cleaver nick name sure no prob lol
 
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