Greetings Fred,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
I have to sympathetically tell you that it's usually a lot harder for a guy to find a poly partner than it is for a gal. So, I'm not surprised to hear that your wife has someone new, but you haven't had much luck. Hang in there buddy; you'll need to be patient.
I will show you my list of links for finding poly groups and poly-friendly people ... sans OKCupid because you of course already know about that.
And it might help to google "Greensburg polyamory" or "Pittsburgh polyamory" or "Pennsylvania polyamory" ... a poly group or two might turn up.
"As for where to meet poly people, if by some chance you are interested in anything alternative like Renaissance fairs, goth culture, sci-fi conventions, indie music, bdsm, or any small fringe group, you will be more likely to meet people who have at least heard of poly and are accepting of it."
-- SpaceHippieGeek, Polyamorous Percolations
Even if it's not an "alternative" type group, if there's a club or something in your area that does something you're interested in, you can always join that group and it just gives you a way to get out there and meet people. If you meet someone on a platonic level and get to talking about poly, then they can decide how they feel about it without any "pressure to agree." Then if they do decide poly doesn't bother them too much, and some kind of romantic connection subsequently develops, you'll already have "had the poly conversation" with them.
With all of the above, you'll have a few more options for finding your own dating partners. Still it's a painstaking process, so expect to do a lot of work for very few results. It's a lonely world out there ... hard to find love even if you're monogamous ... you get the idea.
Regardless I hope you'll enjoy your stay on Polyamory.com; have a look around at our various threads and see what calls to you. There's a lot of valuable info on this site.
Good luck!
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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