foxshifter
New member
Hi hi, I'm new here. I'm Fox, 32, and have identified as non binary since I was 20. Identified as poly/ish since then as well (my great queer awakening!).
I live with a partner of 4 years (...nesting partner?). I've been open about being non-mono from the start. When we met he kind of described himself as poly-curious. We've been living mono "with possibilities" since neither really connected with anyone interesting (Spoiler: until recently).
Situation is all good - I had a crush on a friend, it developed into a dating situation, now experiencing full blown NRE - I'm more invested in all my relationships, not just the already existing partner, but also friends, work, etc. So far everyone is happy&safe. (Except that I'm looking forward to this intense phase calming down so I can focus when I'm at work again...)
Soo, being a bit of an overachieving nerd, I'm also doing all the reading up to take responsibility for my parts of this. I've enjoyed challenging a lot of my ideas of poly these past weeks, and to re-evaluate what my ideas were before. I think I identified as poly but was more mono oriented than I realized. I like being wrong!
And I really want to do this well because both loves are so important to me. I want to make sure to have knowledge and ideas to make the ride easier for everyone along the road. So I felt it was time to actually also register.
I'll probably write a life story/blog post or something. I've enjoyed reading other peoples' stories.
So yeah... boringly enough, everything is working out well and I'm mostly here to get more knowledge about keeping it this way. So, probably mostly lurking. Hi!
I live with a partner of 4 years (...nesting partner?). I've been open about being non-mono from the start. When we met he kind of described himself as poly-curious. We've been living mono "with possibilities" since neither really connected with anyone interesting (Spoiler: until recently).
Situation is all good - I had a crush on a friend, it developed into a dating situation, now experiencing full blown NRE - I'm more invested in all my relationships, not just the already existing partner, but also friends, work, etc. So far everyone is happy&safe. (Except that I'm looking forward to this intense phase calming down so I can focus when I'm at work again...)
Soo, being a bit of an overachieving nerd, I'm also doing all the reading up to take responsibility for my parts of this. I've enjoyed challenging a lot of my ideas of poly these past weeks, and to re-evaluate what my ideas were before. I think I identified as poly but was more mono oriented than I realized. I like being wrong!
And I really want to do this well because both loves are so important to me. I want to make sure to have knowledge and ideas to make the ride easier for everyone along the road. So I felt it was time to actually also register.
I'll probably write a life story/blog post or something. I've enjoyed reading other peoples' stories.
So yeah... boringly enough, everything is working out well and I'm mostly here to get more knowledge about keeping it this way. So, probably mostly lurking. Hi!
) rather than trying to convert a previously mono-based relationship. That being said, I think the thing that you really have to keep in mind as you go along is to never assume that someone else's ideas about non-monogamy are exactly the same as yours.
