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Hi everyone,
My name is Annabelle, but please call me Anna. I am coming here to meet and learn from other people that search past the societal norms of romantic relationships and find their own ways of being.
Originally coming from a very traditional small town, it has been a long journey to understand my sexuality and relationship style to the extent I do today. I am committed to continual growth and development in all areas of my life, so this part of it is not any different.
I recently discovered the term demisexual recently and felt a good deal of relief. I always said instead - 'I don't have casual sex' - which doesn't cover it at all. While I absolutely can be sexually attracted to strangers, I with very rare exception, do not get involved sexually with anyone I don't have a significant emotional connection with, and haven't had many lovers.
The man I have the had the deepest intimacy with is Winter. We have known one another since we were kids, practically. It's one of those types of things where we date, someone is married for awhile (me), then the other one is (him), then I go through a brutal divorce. Eventually we reconnect in our 30s, and that is when it becomes complicated.
Winter's marriage with Space Cadet has not been entirely 'traditional' and consistent with the general poor communication in their relationship, and the DADT-ish with rules, while maybe once made sense 20-some years ago when they got married, haven't been discussed and changed largely through that time, except maybe when I came into the picture. There was a time when I lived with Winter's wife and family in a poly situation I was really unhappy with.
The pandemic and lockdown, as for many people, has not been good for his relationship with Space Cadet, exposing all the cracks and weaknesses in their partnership. They are both working at home and trying to manage the kid's teleschool. He's not talking about it much except to say that Space Cadet is being extremely spacey and workaholic, even for her, and that being present for the kids has once again landed squarely in his lap. I dealt with her being this way myself back when I lived with them, although it had gotten better in more recent times.
For me haven't been satisfied with the status quo between Winters in a long time. The last time we met very recently, I told him I didn't know if I could continue if nothing changed and we had a bit of a discussion about it where he said he needed to think a bit, and asked me to do the same.
I'm not sure I would have expressed that pre-pandemic, but everything else is changing so rapidly, I guess so am I.
I have a ex-partner, Darwin, that I am friends with, but probably would not be so much is I weren't stuck at home all the time these days alone. I have another (ld) friend, Tex, that has evolved into a sort of virtual fwb situation at the beginning of the pandemic. He lives with Trix, and they are in an open relationship of sorts.
I have a lot of other changes I am making in my life career and financial etc too, and could really use support and friendship from other like-minded people, that I hope I might find here on this website.
I look forward to getting to know people here better.
Anna
My name is Annabelle, but please call me Anna. I am coming here to meet and learn from other people that search past the societal norms of romantic relationships and find their own ways of being.
Originally coming from a very traditional small town, it has been a long journey to understand my sexuality and relationship style to the extent I do today. I am committed to continual growth and development in all areas of my life, so this part of it is not any different.
I recently discovered the term demisexual recently and felt a good deal of relief. I always said instead - 'I don't have casual sex' - which doesn't cover it at all. While I absolutely can be sexually attracted to strangers, I with very rare exception, do not get involved sexually with anyone I don't have a significant emotional connection with, and haven't had many lovers.
The man I have the had the deepest intimacy with is Winter. We have known one another since we were kids, practically. It's one of those types of things where we date, someone is married for awhile (me), then the other one is (him), then I go through a brutal divorce. Eventually we reconnect in our 30s, and that is when it becomes complicated.
Winter's marriage with Space Cadet has not been entirely 'traditional' and consistent with the general poor communication in their relationship, and the DADT-ish with rules, while maybe once made sense 20-some years ago when they got married, haven't been discussed and changed largely through that time, except maybe when I came into the picture. There was a time when I lived with Winter's wife and family in a poly situation I was really unhappy with.
The pandemic and lockdown, as for many people, has not been good for his relationship with Space Cadet, exposing all the cracks and weaknesses in their partnership. They are both working at home and trying to manage the kid's teleschool. He's not talking about it much except to say that Space Cadet is being extremely spacey and workaholic, even for her, and that being present for the kids has once again landed squarely in his lap. I dealt with her being this way myself back when I lived with them, although it had gotten better in more recent times.
For me haven't been satisfied with the status quo between Winters in a long time. The last time we met very recently, I told him I didn't know if I could continue if nothing changed and we had a bit of a discussion about it where he said he needed to think a bit, and asked me to do the same.
I'm not sure I would have expressed that pre-pandemic, but everything else is changing so rapidly, I guess so am I.
I have a ex-partner, Darwin, that I am friends with, but probably would not be so much is I weren't stuck at home all the time these days alone. I have another (ld) friend, Tex, that has evolved into a sort of virtual fwb situation at the beginning of the pandemic. He lives with Trix, and they are in an open relationship of sorts.
I have a lot of other changes I am making in my life career and financial etc too, and could really use support and friendship from other like-minded people, that I hope I might find here on this website.
I look forward to getting to know people here better.
Anna
