Hi From DC

[RedRedWhine]

I'm new to poly (well my whole group is). Ive been married 14 years and we met a wonderful single woman about a year ago. Prior to this we were faithfully monogamous. However, I always thought there was something wrong with me when I would be happy that when another woman and my husband were attracted to each other. I've come to now realize that this is not abnormal, but is compersion. Anyways, the three of us are now intimate, though there is a stronger intimacy between GF and my DH, rather than GF and I which is perfectly fine.

I'm still trying to digest this huge change and just trying to slow things down. Everything feels so good and so right that I'm working on slowing the roll so that everyone stays comfortable.

There certainly are some pitfalls, mainly the fact that we live in a conservative community and cannot ever be open about our relationship which right now really sucks. I wish we could just be us. I feel like our GF really gets shafted in this, but that's for another topic.

Looking forward to connecting with other like us. I feel so alone navigating these waters. Would LOVE to meet people in the DC area who are in these type of relationships.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings NovemberRain77,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You might want to visit the Dating & Friendships (North America) board, it may help you find some people in the DC area. Plus there's a good chance you can find a poly group in your area; google "polyamory" with DC, or other nearby state or city and see what comes up. I have a few other links and ideas about that too, let me know if you're interested.

Living in the closet with your poly life is hard to learn how to do. I had to learn it, and it was difficult. Taking things slow will probably help.

Glad you could join our site. Do lots of reading, and post any questions you may have.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[Middlegirl]

Hi there NovemberRain

Good afternoon, I'm Jill (and abit short on time just now) I wanted to say hello, and also say I think it's great that you take your and your husbands GF inaccount.. I know what that is like and it's never easy. I am much to have a great relationship with Renee's husband, otherwise our relationship would never work..

Have a great day..

 

[Bluebird]

Welcome!