Hi from Oregon

[Sunshine54]

Hello everyone! I am happy to be here as I learn more about the Poly lifestyle. I am currently in a relationship with a great guy, his wife and her boyfriend. It's been about three years now and is my first nonmonogamist relationship. We have definitely had our ups and downs, and I am trying to cope with the current "down." My boyfriend and his wife are talking about separating over her boyfriend. My guy doesn't like him, and she is choosing the boyfriend over her husband. I know all I can do is support the man I love, but its so hard and complicated.

I'm hoping to find support here, as well as learn how to deal with other things that come up in our relationship. I must admit that jealousy over my guy's new relationship has been a real struggle for me, but I'm working on those fears and insecurities.

I look forward to talking with you all!

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Sunshine54,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You can definitely find support here, it sounds like you could use some help with your current situation, as well as how to deal with other things that come up in your relationship. As for the jealousy thing, I can post some links that can help you, if that would help. Let me know.

All you can do is support your guy in this difficult situation where he is maybe going to break up with his wife. It sounds like she is choosing her boyfriend over him, so I don't blame him. Also it sounds like he is starting a new relationship?

I'm glad you can join us, I hope we can help.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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