Doug72
New member
Hello all. I've been married for 15 years, and have been dating and intimate with my girlfriend since late Jan of this year. I'm not new to poly, BUT............
It's been 15 years since the last time I was dating 2 women at the same time. I've learned one thing so far, Man have the times changed. They both know everything, so the biggest leap is out of the way(at least in my opinion). It's still a struggle sometimes though, as I'm sure it is with most of you, or at least some of you. This is why I'm here, for advice, and hopefully I can give some(doubtful, but you never know). It's great to be somewhere without judgement. That's the hardest part of this in my eyes.
I also just recently came out of the closet about it. I'm just to the point where I don't give a sh*t anymore what people think. Because let's face it, the first people to judge and tell you how to live your life are always the ones with a train wreck for a life. Their lives a usually more screwed up than everyone else. Anyway, It's a little rough given my position. I'm the Vice President of my local Sportsmen's Association, and I know a lot of people. But the only ones I have told, or will tell, are the main ones I deal with all the time who know my wife. And to be honest, they are taking it excellent and wishing me the best and are fine with it. Which really doesn't surprise me given the type of people they are. Good wholesome old fashioned Americans who understand the each to his own concept. Which is why I'm so happy there. I volunteer a bat sh*t crazy amount of time there. So when I show up with 2 different women at different times, I don't want people to talk. My biggest fear is that people will put down or judge my wife and my girlfriend. I can put up with people talking abut me, but I won't put up with people talking behind THEIR backs. If more people would worry about themselves instead of always putting their noses in other peoples business, the world would be a better place.
My wife is fine with everything and for the most part so is my girlfriend. There's quite a bit more, but that will come with general conversation. I hate writing what I call a novel. I usually don't post anything lengthy. But, intros are perfect for letting everyone know the situation, and I'm sure usually tend to be lengthy. They have to be most of the time. So forgive the lengthy post, and I'm looking forward to some much needed conversation. Thanks for your time.
It's been 15 years since the last time I was dating 2 women at the same time. I've learned one thing so far, Man have the times changed. They both know everything, so the biggest leap is out of the way(at least in my opinion). It's still a struggle sometimes though, as I'm sure it is with most of you, or at least some of you. This is why I'm here, for advice, and hopefully I can give some(doubtful, but you never know). It's great to be somewhere without judgement. That's the hardest part of this in my eyes.
I also just recently came out of the closet about it. I'm just to the point where I don't give a sh*t anymore what people think. Because let's face it, the first people to judge and tell you how to live your life are always the ones with a train wreck for a life. Their lives a usually more screwed up than everyone else. Anyway, It's a little rough given my position. I'm the Vice President of my local Sportsmen's Association, and I know a lot of people. But the only ones I have told, or will tell, are the main ones I deal with all the time who know my wife. And to be honest, they are taking it excellent and wishing me the best and are fine with it. Which really doesn't surprise me given the type of people they are. Good wholesome old fashioned Americans who understand the each to his own concept. Which is why I'm so happy there. I volunteer a bat sh*t crazy amount of time there. So when I show up with 2 different women at different times, I don't want people to talk. My biggest fear is that people will put down or judge my wife and my girlfriend. I can put up with people talking abut me, but I won't put up with people talking behind THEIR backs. If more people would worry about themselves instead of always putting their noses in other peoples business, the world would be a better place.
My wife is fine with everything and for the most part so is my girlfriend. There's quite a bit more, but that will come with general conversation. I hate writing what I call a novel. I usually don't post anything lengthy. But, intros are perfect for letting everyone know the situation, and I'm sure usually tend to be lengthy. They have to be most of the time. So forgive the lengthy post, and I'm looking forward to some much needed conversation. Thanks for your time.
