Hi rich09,
Sorry you are having trouble finding someone here, I hope your luck changes. You should be aware that Polyamory.com isn't really a dating site, it is just a place where people get together to talk about poly. Once in a while a couple of people here will develop a romantic connection, but you'll need the patience of Job waiting for that to happen. Sorry I couldn't be of more help.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.