Subtlegong
New member
So about 12 years ago I had a rough ending to my last committed monogamous relationship. I tried casual relationships for a few years but it didn't really fit my life style. For the last 8 and a half years I've been single and not seeking relationships. "Love Shy" is the most common word I've heard thrown around.
For a lot of those years my most common issues that kept coming up that made me avoid relationships was my dislike of jealousy, possessiveness, loss of personal identity, and a fear of abusive/unequal partnerships. The more I understood about Poly relationships over the past few years the more I started to suspect that my issue was with monogamy. So I searched for this community to get an idea for whether or not pursuing poly relationships might help me avoid some or all of the things that keep me from seeking relationships.
On a related note how would I even seek a poly relationship? Forgive the vanilla question but I've only witnessed a few poly relationships in the wild and while healthy looking it felt intrusive to ask too many personal questions.
Anyways...
Hi, I'm Subtle. Its my hope that next year I can stop smoking and get over my love shyness. I'm not expecting much help in the first regard, but maybe some of you can help with the second.
For a lot of those years my most common issues that kept coming up that made me avoid relationships was my dislike of jealousy, possessiveness, loss of personal identity, and a fear of abusive/unequal partnerships. The more I understood about Poly relationships over the past few years the more I started to suspect that my issue was with monogamy. So I searched for this community to get an idea for whether or not pursuing poly relationships might help me avoid some or all of the things that keep me from seeking relationships.
On a related note how would I even seek a poly relationship? Forgive the vanilla question but I've only witnessed a few poly relationships in the wild and while healthy looking it felt intrusive to ask too many personal questions.
Anyways...
Hi, I'm Subtle. Its my hope that next year I can stop smoking and get over my love shyness. I'm not expecting much help in the first regard, but maybe some of you can help with the second.