Hello sexy people. Just digging through this website to see what other experiences folks are having that are similar to ours. My wife and I have been married for almost 12 years. We've always been very open and comfortable with our sex lives. About 2 years ago we got into the LS as swingers and it felt like we found home. We were very against the idea of ever developing feelings beyond good friendships with anyone because we saw that as a major threat to our relationship. Well about 8 months ago we met another couple at a hotel takeover. Since that first day, we have texted or talked from the point our eyes open till we say goodnight everyday. They were in the same boat as we were experience wise and not wanting feelings of any sort. Somehow we all fell in love with each other. I love him like a brother, I love his wife like a SO, he loves my wife like that, and the two ladies have a sexual and romantic relationship. It was totally unexpected but we are all very happy. We know how rare a strong poly quad is and we are just taking it day by day, enjoying every opportunity we can to be with each other. We live an hour and a half apart so meeting up as much as we want is tough but we still generally get to see them once a week. Our family and friends know and support us. Theirs does not know but we are excepted in their family as really good friends. Our kids all play together and love each other. We've had a few small hiccups as we've worked through this becoming a relationship but nothing too major. Unfortunately J and I have to move for work for the next three years which is going to be a major challenge but we are all committed to doing all we can to make it work. We already have four trips planned to see them over the next year and I suspect there will be more opportunities that will pop up. This is one of the hardest yet most rewarding things we've done. The fact that we love them so much yet have to leave is killing us. It's bittersweet. Not sure what the future holds but a joint property with two houses so we can see each other whenever we want sounds like heaven. We have no interest in ever exploring poly with anyone else but we can't imagine the relationship with the four of us not being a part of our lives forever. Wish us luck, the next three years will be the big test.
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Greetings TheFoxes,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
It sounds like you have a nice relationship with the other couple, I know LDR is hard but try to make the best of it over the next three years. You will find Polyamory.com a supportive forum where you can find out more about poly, and it will help you in your quad. Going to poly through swinging is actually a thing, it happens fairly often, to one extent or another. Some people do swing and then become full-on poly, others do swing and then become poly with one specific couple ... and there's everything in between. So you're definitely not alone. Sometimes you develop feelings when you just didn't think you would ... and that's okay; it happens. I hope everything works out for you, and that you'll end up getting that joint property of which you've been dreaming.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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Welcome aboard!
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
It sounds like you have a nice relationship with the other couple, I know LDR is hard but try to make the best of it over the next three years. You will find Polyamory.com a supportive forum where you can find out more about poly, and it will help you in your quad. Going to poly through swinging is actually a thing, it happens fairly often, to one extent or another. Some people do swing and then become full-on poly, others do swing and then become poly with one specific couple ... and there's everything in between. So you're definitely not alone. Sometimes you develop feelings when you just didn't think you would ... and that's okay; it happens. I hope everything works out for you, and that you'll end up getting that joint property of which you've been dreaming.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
Notes:
There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!
Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.
Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.
If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.
Welcome aboard!