Remi
New member
Hey,
I've been poly for a few years, and for a few reasons. I think it's really more of a logical decision for me.
I met someone over 10 years ago, whom I dated for 5, who one day decides that they want to explore lesbianism, so we broke up and remained friends for another 5 years. Spending every day with someone who keeps you at arms length perpetually is incredibly draining. I want to be in relationships that are allowed to grow. So yeah, we're not friends anymore, it's a recent wound, and it's kind of hard on me.
I was also involved in a few long term, long distance relationships, some led to in person meetings, others didn't. Kinda sucks when you can pay for a visa and the government still won't let them visit you.
I'm also looking for someone, this ideal inside my head I guess. I don't wanna be alone for my entire life, but I also don't wanna give up on the notion that I can pursue a relationship with this unknown ideal person should I ever encounter them.
That said, I've never actually been with another person who was poly. It's always me being honest with them about what I want and how I am, and them putting up with it or trying to accept it. I was just thinking that maybe I should stop trying to swim up stream and instead spend some time with others who have a similar mindset.
I hope you'll welcome me warmly, I'm interesting in meeting someone new and I look forward to conversing with you all.
Current mood: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R09ofsC2-wU
I've been poly for a few years, and for a few reasons. I think it's really more of a logical decision for me.
I met someone over 10 years ago, whom I dated for 5, who one day decides that they want to explore lesbianism, so we broke up and remained friends for another 5 years. Spending every day with someone who keeps you at arms length perpetually is incredibly draining. I want to be in relationships that are allowed to grow. So yeah, we're not friends anymore, it's a recent wound, and it's kind of hard on me.
I was also involved in a few long term, long distance relationships, some led to in person meetings, others didn't. Kinda sucks when you can pay for a visa and the government still won't let them visit you.
I'm also looking for someone, this ideal inside my head I guess. I don't wanna be alone for my entire life, but I also don't wanna give up on the notion that I can pursue a relationship with this unknown ideal person should I ever encounter them.
That said, I've never actually been with another person who was poly. It's always me being honest with them about what I want and how I am, and them putting up with it or trying to accept it. I was just thinking that maybe I should stop trying to swim up stream and instead spend some time with others who have a similar mindset.
I hope you'll welcome me warmly, I'm interesting in meeting someone new and I look forward to conversing with you all.
Current mood: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R09ofsC2-wU