DiCandy
New member
Ok, so, I am really new to the forum. I found it some time ago, and had not really joined, for one reason or another. So this is my story.
I am 22 years old, yeah, quite young, if you put it that way. I had been in a monogamous relationship for 6, almost 7 years.
Things with that guy ended, and I realized that I had changed. I no longer fancied monogamy because, indeed, I had never felt like sex was that big of a deal. For me, the commitment with your spouse goes beyond the sexual connection. So anyway, I remained single for like a year, and in that year I became a swinger. It was easy and it was fun for me.
I didn't know anything about polyamory. It was completely new to me, but I wanted all that polygamy stands for. I wanted to be able to have a lover who I compliment, who understands me, and who doesn't judge me for who I go to bed with.
So I met my actual husband last year in June. He is 15 years my senior, and well, he's always been a swinger. He doesn't consider himself polygamous, but he practices it. So we started a relationship. It was more like friends with benefits at first, but things started getting serious and we fell in love. He is completely perfect with us having different sexual partners, and so am I.
The problem comes when my two best friends (who basically hate everything we have) say we are playing, and that we are not serious about the whole relationship.
The thing is, he and I are expecting a baby. I am nearly 4 months pregnant.
I am constantly having this problem with my friends because they believe that my husband and I are not taking this relationship seriously.
My big question is: what do I do to make my friends understand where I am coming from? Or maybe the right question should be, should I allow my friends to get in my personal business the way they do? I mean, up until which point is your friend's opinion really important in your lifestyle?
Thanks for reading!
I am 22 years old, yeah, quite young, if you put it that way. I had been in a monogamous relationship for 6, almost 7 years.
Things with that guy ended, and I realized that I had changed. I no longer fancied monogamy because, indeed, I had never felt like sex was that big of a deal. For me, the commitment with your spouse goes beyond the sexual connection. So anyway, I remained single for like a year, and in that year I became a swinger. It was easy and it was fun for me.
I didn't know anything about polyamory. It was completely new to me, but I wanted all that polygamy stands for. I wanted to be able to have a lover who I compliment, who understands me, and who doesn't judge me for who I go to bed with.
So I met my actual husband last year in June. He is 15 years my senior, and well, he's always been a swinger. He doesn't consider himself polygamous, but he practices it. So we started a relationship. It was more like friends with benefits at first, but things started getting serious and we fell in love. He is completely perfect with us having different sexual partners, and so am I.
The problem comes when my two best friends (who basically hate everything we have) say we are playing, and that we are not serious about the whole relationship.
The thing is, he and I are expecting a baby. I am nearly 4 months pregnant.
I am constantly having this problem with my friends because they believe that my husband and I are not taking this relationship seriously.
My big question is: what do I do to make my friends understand where I am coming from? Or maybe the right question should be, should I allow my friends to get in my personal business the way they do? I mean, up until which point is your friend's opinion really important in your lifestyle?
Thanks for reading!
