Validate his emotions and talk about polyamory with him. Unfortunately, you might not be compatible with your husband. Initially, you agreed to have a monogamous relationship. You're going to have to accept he has a right to leave. You can try to convince him to change from monogamy to polyamory, but it's going to take a ton of work.Hi everyone.
I've been in a mono relationship for almost ten years, and married for half of those. Recently, I came to the conclusion that i have a strong connection to a friend who i have also known for a very long time. After some arguments and jealousy from my husband, I realized i didn't want to choose between one or the other, than I want and love them both in their own ways. I am terrified of telling my husband this because I think i will make him feel insecure, and Im not sure what is going to happen to our relationship if I tell him I also love someone else. So many things at stake. I don't know how to proceed. All I know is that I can't go back to a life of hiding and represing desires. But I also don't want to lose the two most important persons in my life.