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The initial statement was "Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of..." which then goes on to attempt a definition of polyamory.
This implies that "acceptance of polyamory" somehow equates to "being polyamorous."
I strongly disagree with any such equation. As illustration, I presented equally silly equations.
And I don't like that people who merelythink "polyamory is an interesting idea" could thus be seen as somehow knowledgeable of living polyamorously.
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And what is meant by "acceptance of," anyway?
I accept that I have to share this world with Neonazis. Does that mean that I am therefore a Neonazi?
I accept that a friend I've known for decades is a transwoman. Does that make me a transwoman?
I accept that my lover is a Morris dancer. Does that make me a Morris dancer?
No, but I think there's a case for a husband whose wife wants to be poly, but who doesn't want to have other partners for himself, if he ACCEPTS her fully, even to the point where her boyfriend moves in and they share a bed but he still doesn't want sex that involves the BF, so they are a Vee and everything, and he ACCEPTS that situation, as does the boyfriend if he hasn't any other partners nor desire to...
I wouldn't call those men monogamous or not polyamorous, because they are merely doing some very high level ACCEPTANCE, of their poly partner.
Those guys don't have a lot in common, relationship-wise, with the traditional monodude who is like "Honey, I don't really want you talking to other men. You know men and women can't really be friends, they all just wanna get in your pants. It's inappropriate."
Those guys are a HELL of a lot closer to being poly, than they are to being mono as I have seen default-muggle-mono done all my life.