How's the water over here?

[Newobsession]

Hi,

Newob here, 39 year old male, married for 10 years to a woman I fell in love with at 24. I have had many a crush in that time period, have never acted on it, and have backed away whenever to opportunity to take things a step further than non-(overtly) sexual flirtation arose.

She has, on several occasions through the years, encouraged me to pursue other women. I never have because I have always feared the reality of another (partner?) might put strain on our relationship.

Recent developments between us, along with with the appearance of a long-lost love from her past, have me considering opening up our marriage. She wants to, and I am just completely taken by surprise at these new developments.

After a difficult, but amazing, past week with her.I am here to dip my toe in the poly-water.

I am all mixed up. Nevertheless, here I am and if we're going to try this I want to try to do this right. Not even sure I should be here (if not, a nudge to the right place is appreciated)

There is more to the story, but an introduction post doesn't feel like the right place for me to share it.

I'm off to lurk.

 

[JaneQSmythe]

Hello and Welcome! Certainly sounds like you are in the right place. Read, learn, enjoy and ask questions (and take answers with a grain of salt!).

Feel free to share as much of your story as you like here - or start a blog thread if that feels more comfortable for you. (Keeping in mind that these are public forums).

Our "official greeter" Kevin will likely be by shortly to point you to some good places to get started here...

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Newobsession,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

The Life stories and blogs is perfect for telling more of your story if you feel so inclined. If you desire advice/feedback for a personal situation, try the Poly Relationships Corner. And there's a General Poly Discussions, and so on.

I found the water a bit hot at first, but then I got used to it and I like it. Give it a try!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Sounds like you've read through the guidelines; that's good.

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If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!