Husband adjusting to my time not being dedicated to him

[Tinwen]

Yai for you, let us know how it worked out!

 

[GalaGirl]

Glad you are feeling better after taking charge of your calendar and seeing the therapist.

I thought it might be considered a little passive-aggressive of me to share a google doc with both of them instead of talking to each of them directly,

This IS direct communication. When an office or other work place has to share data about calendars and schedules, it sends round a memo to all the people it affects/applies to. No different here.

Galagirl

 

[Marcus]

So today I carved out some time to work on a spreadsheet of what I want. I shared it with both of them, along with an explanation of the fact that I am struggling with being stretched thin and that I would like to re-think our schedule. I said that if they had any concerns I would like to hear them, but that I wanted to use this as a starting place because it already takes into account some of the concerns that they have broughtto me individually, and that, above all it's what I want and feel I can commit to.

You know one thing that builds trust? People having clear boundaries and sticking to them.

By establishing this kind of baseline you are increasing the long term odds of you being happier, and having over-all healthier relationships.

Good for you.