I can't help it, I still sometimes hate my husband and his girlfriend.
- Thread starter bofish
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I mean this kindly, okay? Several things strike me. Your husband works full time and so do you - although you work from home. So you've got your home life and your work life all rolled into one with no clear delineation. Hence the feeling "you're stuck at home being the care giver." Likewise your husband may view it as "you get to work for home" as a perk, and not fully understand your struggles.
That your husband and his gf see each other one night a week does not seem excessive IMO.
What seems obvious is that you also need some time out of the house to do something fun. Ask your husband to babysit so you can go out. Or hire a babysitter. If there is no bf in the pic at the moment, do something fun with a girlfriend. Sounds to me like you're going stir crazy.
As for the gf, you are envious of her lack of responsibility. But think, would you choose her life if you had it to do over? If the answer is no, then quit worrying about it. Just do what you need to in order to not feel stuck in caregiving 24/7.
That your husband and his gf see each other one night a week does not seem excessive IMO.
What seems obvious is that you also need some time out of the house to do something fun. Ask your husband to babysit so you can go out. Or hire a babysitter. If there is no bf in the pic at the moment, do something fun with a girlfriend. Sounds to me like you're going stir crazy.
As for the gf, you are envious of her lack of responsibility. But think, would you choose her life if you had it to do over? If the answer is no, then quit worrying about it. Just do what you need to in order to not feel stuck in caregiving 24/7.
alibabe_muse
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I've been and am where you are but its up to me to make the changes I need to not be a home body. I refuse to be a victim of my circumstances even though stupid little things are currently preventing me from taking the reins and creating that change (my ear drum ruptured yesterday). Once I'm healed I plan on getting out and making new friends.
