I have NRE and I haven't met anyone yet!!

[Elise]

I am a poly virgin. I'm in a monogamous hetero relationship of 9 years. I have never been in a romantic relationship with a woman, but I have had desires for it for a very long time. My husband and I have talked about opening our relationship many times over the years. Only recently in the past 2 months have we begun digging in to find out how exactly we can accomplish that in a healthy way. We both want to be winners!!

My husband seems more secure and has less restrictions for me in this new chapter of our marriage. Ironically, he is looking for a romantic, intellectually stimulating, emotional relationship(s) with no particular interest if it ends in a sexual opportunity. For me, I would like to have what he is after, but I am MORE interested in the chemistry, that electrical sexual energy. Because if my new relationship lacks those things, we would just be close friends.

I want a girlfriend he wants to be emotionally intimate with women. I can hardly believe I'm typing this.

As of now, our rules are we tell who we meet that we are happily married and not willing to divorce. We will then introduce the new partner to the other and if they seem comfortable that they will be involved with a married person, we can go deeper. Every step of the way we will process with our spouse before we do anything more intimate with our new love.

Looking forward to our adventures and hoping for not too many growing pains.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Elise,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I had a look at your other thread, and responded there briefly. In short, productive communication and transparency are the secrets of success. Keep exploring this site, and learn as much about poly as you can.

It is great to have you with us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[BrianneGoddess]

Hi Elise and welcome It sounds as though this is something you both want, which means it's more likely to be a fun and exciting adventure of learning, growth and increased love for both of you.

I hope it will be everything you need and desire!

 

[Elise]

It's been a great experience in this forum. So much helpful information. I'm glad I found you all.