I'm Extremely Nervous

[SEASONEDpolyAgain]

Even within a single culture parenting ideals change with the times. Unpopular opinion: There is no one twue way parenting just as there is no one twue way polying.

We know that the unequal load of household labour and childcare is destroying women's mental health and this in turn in impacting on their children. We know that families where the women feel they aren't unduly burdened with an unequal share of labour have happier parents who create a safer, healthier environment for their children. The children do better.

So, no, one doesn't have any right to parenting methods that are harmful to individuals and society as a whole. The unequal burden on women who are partners and co-parents to men is traumatic to said children. You don't have the right to traumatise your kids.

There may not be one true way to parent, but practices that have been proven to ultimately harm said children are objectively unacceptable. It can't be one of the "true ways" if it hurts the people you're meant to be nurturing.

 

[GalaGirl]

We should not be encouraging fathers who are not active parents to create more children for women to raise.

Not encouraging that. My point was more that this wife is being really controlling in wanting to tell him what to do with his body even if she dumps him to go off with some other dude.

Sleepy, as difficult as this may be right now, I think you called it right from the start.

Long story short, I feel like my wife of 10 years is looking for a way out of marriage through having an open relationship.

She's checked out of this marriage and looking for her exit through some other guy.

GG

 

[SEASONEDpolyAgain]

My point was more that this wife is being really controlling in wanting to tell him what to do with his body even if she dumps him to go off with some other dude.

I see how it looks that way and it kind of is that way, but I feel like women feel the urge to do that when they already feel an unequal share of the child rearing.