Hello everyone!
I found this board a little over a month ago (it was linked to me from the Poly board on reddit) and I've been lurking ever since. I finally got the courage to create an account so now I can lurk with an account
After being in a monogamous marriage for close to 7 years that ended badly, I was dealing with my divorce when a close friend of mine, pretty much out of the blue, confessed her feelings for me. She is married but explained that she is poly and that both her and her wife were interested in dating me. The idea was something I always had wanted to try, so I ended up saying yes and that's where my poly journey started.
When we started dating, I was not dating both women together as a unit but separately as individuals. I had been closer with my original friend so our relationship blossomed a lot quicker. By the end of the year, we had already come across some bumps in the road and my relationship with her wife was downgraded to a friendship, which I think was better for both of us, and this is how it currently stands, with my girlfriend acting as the hinge of the V.
I've been visiting and staying with them in their house since the relationship started, usually for up to a month at a time, and for the most part things are cozy and comfortable. We started out sharing one bed, but currently I have my own little room my girlfriend set up for me so I can have privacy and my own space in her attempt to help me feel more at home (it helped!) We are very open about our relationship. My family knows and my girlfriend has visited twice (I live with my parents and sister) and her family knows about me and we go out to eat dinner and hang out with her father and father's girlfriend on a semi regular basis.
I am their first poly partner and this is not only my first poly relationship but also my first relationship where I'm trying hard to communicate better and to understand what I want and need out of relationships better, as well as my first lesbian relationship (up until now I've identified as bisexual and asexual, but currently wondering if I may just be gay). To say we haven't made mistakes over the past year would be in itself a mistake. We've definitely come a long way and I've learned a lot about myself. I'd like to think I grew a little as well. I found this board specifically while looking for resources on poly so I could learn more about this lifestyle I was living (my girlfriend and her wife extensively researched and talked about opening their marriage before doing so, but when we started dating I never thought to do so) and I've learned so much over this past month of lurking.
Shout out to all the active members who provide great advice to every relationship level.
Thank you for creating this little space. (Sorry for the long intro!)
I found this board a little over a month ago (it was linked to me from the Poly board on reddit) and I've been lurking ever since. I finally got the courage to create an account so now I can lurk with an account
After being in a monogamous marriage for close to 7 years that ended badly, I was dealing with my divorce when a close friend of mine, pretty much out of the blue, confessed her feelings for me. She is married but explained that she is poly and that both her and her wife were interested in dating me. The idea was something I always had wanted to try, so I ended up saying yes and that's where my poly journey started.
When we started dating, I was not dating both women together as a unit but separately as individuals. I had been closer with my original friend so our relationship blossomed a lot quicker. By the end of the year, we had already come across some bumps in the road and my relationship with her wife was downgraded to a friendship, which I think was better for both of us, and this is how it currently stands, with my girlfriend acting as the hinge of the V.
I've been visiting and staying with them in their house since the relationship started, usually for up to a month at a time, and for the most part things are cozy and comfortable. We started out sharing one bed, but currently I have my own little room my girlfriend set up for me so I can have privacy and my own space in her attempt to help me feel more at home (it helped!) We are very open about our relationship. My family knows and my girlfriend has visited twice (I live with my parents and sister) and her family knows about me and we go out to eat dinner and hang out with her father and father's girlfriend on a semi regular basis.
I am their first poly partner and this is not only my first poly relationship but also my first relationship where I'm trying hard to communicate better and to understand what I want and need out of relationships better, as well as my first lesbian relationship (up until now I've identified as bisexual and asexual, but currently wondering if I may just be gay). To say we haven't made mistakes over the past year would be in itself a mistake. We've definitely come a long way and I've learned a lot about myself. I'd like to think I grew a little as well. I found this board specifically while looking for resources on poly so I could learn more about this lifestyle I was living (my girlfriend and her wife extensively researched and talked about opening their marriage before doing so, but when we started dating I never thought to do so) and I've learned so much over this past month of lurking.
Shout out to all the active members who provide great advice to every relationship level.
Thank you for creating this little space. (Sorry for the long intro!)
