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Mermaid

Mermaid

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Hello! I'm Jenna, living in an outlying DC bedroom community. I'm here to learn as much as I can and try to (once again) navigate this conversation with my husband of many years. I'm sexually unfulfilled in our current arrangement, and need to figure out how to successfully broach the subject and have the conversation. Previous attempts were unsuccessful and left both of us sad and hurt. Probably a common tale. I need to soak up your wisdom!
 
Welcome Mermaid!

It's true a lot of people are in similar situations to yours, unfortunately. The forum often sees both sides - the person who wants to be ethically non-monogamous and the person who is trying to deal with what their partner wants.

I don't think it is possible to have those conversations without pain and hurt. I do think it's possible to do so in ways where each person feels heard and is working towards being understood and understanding. But it's hard.

You may be already aware but there is a meetup.com group, BMore Poly, that has discussion groups, parties, and various events in the DC/MD/VA/DE, occasionally PA areas. It's free to join. Sometimes it can be very helpful to meet other poly/non-monogamous folks in person. It can be very demystifying if your partner is willing to go too.
 
Greetings Jenna,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Perhaps it would help to do some reading together? such as ...

  • "Sex at Dawn: how we mate, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships," by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.
  • "Opening Up: a guide to creating and sustaining open relationships," by Tristan Taormino.
  • "More than Two: a practical guide to ethical polyamory," by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert.
  • "The Polyamorists Next Door: inside multiple-partner relationships and families," by Elisabeth Sheff.
Would your husband be willing to join this site?
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

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Welcome aboard!
 
Hi Mermaid! I am fairly new here too but I can identify with your post. I have a great marriage with my husband but I too am a bit unfulfilled - not in the sex area, but in romance and nurturing. We have embarked on a "V" in which i am the hinge and *so far* we are doing very well. I think completely open and transparent conversation is paramount and much can be overcome with that. Welcome!
 
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