Intro - In the Middle

[playfulcharms]

Hi everyone,

I have thought positively about polyamory and thought it was something that would make me happy since my teens.

Now, I'm 33 and in my second marriage. My husband, D, and I were both "swingers" when we met and have enjoyed many adventures together in that world and made some very good friends over the 3 years of our relationship. He is the first partner I've had that completely accepts and enjoys my bisexuality.

Although there are a lot of very fun, open and kind people in the swinger community, there is also a lot of objectification, drug-use, alcohol over-use and disfunction. For me, it has been very tough at times to find the energy to weed through the bad to find the good - but when it's good it is so good!

Recently I've been thinking about trying to find a woman who would want something more - an emotional relationship with me or with me and D together. I began to consider this seriously, I hadn't even expressed it as more than a passing thought to D, when he found a young woman on one of the dating sites who was looking for a relationship with a couple and wanted to meet us! I was very nervous and hesitant, but my husband encouraged me to give it a chance and I'm so glad I did.

We have been dating for only three weeks, but the relationship has been emotionally intense so far for S and me. D is encouraging and patient. I can't believe how supportive he is being. D and S are friendly, and the three of us enjoy our "playtime".

I am feeling very sexually and emotionally fulfilled, and want this to continue for a long time. S definitely wants the relationship to move faster than either D or I are comfortable with, but that is something I know we can work out. We also have a pretty large age gap, since D is quite a bit older than I am and S is younger.

Even though I am very happy "in the middle" it has it's challenges. I decided to seek out a community to see how other people handle things like living situations, coming out to family, public displays of affection, and the like. I have a tendency to buy into my SO's visions of the future, and now that I have two SOs (with different visions) it's challenging me to figure out what I want, which is great!

Happy to be here,
Jenny

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Jenny,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Sounds like things are going well for you, S, and D; I'm glad to hear that. You mentioned wondering how others handled certain things, so I'll list mine briefly:

• Living situation: I and my two companions share a home. I have my own bedroom.
• Coming out to family: We haven't really come out, although I gave enough hints to one brother and his wife that I figure they basically know.
• Public displays of affection: When it's just two of us together we'll do PDA's. Not so much when all three of us are together.

I'll be glad to tell you more, just fire questions at me and I'll happily answer.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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