Intro / New to Poly

clemenC

clemenC

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Hey there! I'm not new to alternative styles of relationship. However I AM new to polyamory ... which has been a result of a new relationship that evolved from sheer happenstance. All very magical, we click on an amazing level and needless to say, I've fallen HARD which is quite the rarity for me. Thus, I decided to give it a go and give the experience of a polyamorous relationship a chance.

I have SO many questions! And I'm hoping those will be welcome here.

So Hello to all the folks here and thank you for being here so I'm not so alone in navigating my thoughts throughout this relationship in an objective (seperate from the actual person I'm involved with) way. Thank you. <3

- CC
 
Hey, welcome! From one newbie to another, lol.
I know it means a lot to be able to talk freely with others who are familiar with poly relationships so that you can bounce your thoughts off them without worrying about them judging you or giving advice from a non-poly perspective. We're glad you're here!
 
FieryFlames said:
Hey, welcome! From one newbie to another, lol.
I know it means a lot to be able to talk freely with others who are familiar with poly relationships so that you can bounce your thoughts off them without worrying about them judging you or giving advice from a non-poly perspective. We're glad you're here!
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Thank you so much for the reply!! <3

I was beginning to feel like a total outsider. SO many of the posts here are primarily from poly folks and the only mono/poly things I've read are not very inviting either :/

I appreciate you making the point to say hello :)
 
Greetings clemenC,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I'm sure we can answer your questions for you, just let us know what they are. We do have monogamous members, and I can assure you you are not an outsider here.

I wish you the very best in your poly experience.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

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If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
Thank you! I still have lots of conflicting thoughts and feelings but I think considering my history with relationships (and most of which being atypical or untraditional in nature) poly isn't a bad thing - I just don't know how or what would hypothetically work for me as of yet. I'm happy I found this place for the time being while trying to figure it all out!
 
I'm glad you're with us.
 
Welcome

Greetings to you! I'm also new on this site. I have always felt internally as a polyamorous person but primarily have been in monogamous relationships due to what my partners expect. However, in my late 20s I finally started being true to myself and refusing to enter monogamous relationships. This has resulted in me being single most of the time (which I am perfectly content with). Congratulations on falling in love! That is wonderful for you. Feel free to ask me any questions you may have. If I can answer, I will. I'm just curious if you are now exploring polyamory simply because your partner is? Or is that something you want to do for yourself as well?

Love and peace
 
Countryhippie said:
Greetings to you! I'm also new on this site. I have always felt internally as a polyamorous person but primarily have been in monogamous relationships due to what my partners expect. However, in my late 20s I finally started being true to myself and refusing to enter monogamous relationships. This has resulted in me being single most of the time (which I am perfectly content with). Congratulations on falling in love! That is wonderful for you. Feel free to ask me any questions you may have. If I can answer, I will. I'm just curious if you are now exploring polyamory simply because your partner is? Or is that something you want to do for yourself as well?

Love and peace
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Thank you for the welcome! Nice to see another newbie :)

I've experienced other forms of poly and it's not a big deal. Frankly, it's a take it or leave it (if I was in a primary relationship that was healthy and happy). If the other party is I don't care either. However, my current status is solo poly. Note I never said I was in love. I'm head over heels and it's all fresh and yes, I think of the potential and possibilities. My aunt dated a man 10 years younger for over 20 years. I have met so many people with age differences so in my mind, it's not that. Rather I am his secondary and if that's the case I think it's best to take a step back and manage emotions. I'm continuing to date him because he's an amazing person but I will be dating others.

I guess I kind of do what I want and think is in my best interest within context of any given situation.
 
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