Hello, I don't even know where to begin. I've been married 15 years and have children. I guess I've always known I was poly, but I had not idea it was a "thing". Looking back, Over the years I've always had interest in other men, but I still love my husband very much. I didn't give it much thought and I always hid these friendships from my husband. Never physica,l always emotional. This last man I fell for, I fell hard. And he fell hard for me too. And not knowing better, I thought it meant I had to divorce my husband so we could even have a chance. Right now, Ive just learned to accept my feelings and hope they go away. They aren't. We are friends, but he retreats when we get too close. My husband knows about him and says it's ok to be his friend, be attracted to him, but he doesn't want to find out I've been intimate with him. He said he thinks it would make him angry if I ever cheated, but maybe he's not sure he'd be that angry. Al I know is that I love them both. Kids are so intuitive, My 6 yr old daughter once said to me out of the blue, "it's ok Momma, you can marry whoever you want, you could even have two husbands if you want." I'm here to learn about myself, other people's experiences and how to bring it up to my husband about what I want.
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Greetings Romy123,
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I know it is not easy to talk to your husband about poly, but hopefully you'll find the strength and words. We'll certainly try to help here. Perhaps Franklin Veaux's Poly FAQ would also help, have a look at that page.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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Welcome aboard!
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
I know it is not easy to talk to your husband about poly, but hopefully you'll find the strength and words. We'll certainly try to help here. Perhaps Franklin Veaux's Poly FAQ would also help, have a look at that page.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
Notes:
There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!
Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.
Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.
If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.
Welcome aboard!