Introduction : Cardinal

[Cardinal]

Hello,

My wife and I have been married for 2 1/2 years. Recent events have led us in the direction of a polyfidelic triad. It hasn't happened yet but the idea was totally spontaneous in nature as a string of events unfolded that brought us into the path of a dear friend. Struggling to understand what you call it when three people fall in love with each other at the same time has been the greatest challenge of our lives. No one went looking for what we found, none of it was planned, and if we had to go back and make all the same choices that lead us here we'd do it without question. It is not 100% certain but we are all about to decide whether or not to make that choice.

I am mostly here for advice and will elaborate more in another post to that end. For now, hello polyamory forums.

C.

 

[Al99]

Welcome, Cardinal! I've only been here a few months and equally new to poly but have found most of the folks here to be friendly and helpful - lots of sound advice and good info. Coming into this together will certainly be helpful - very often it is one member of a marriage/partnership that will want to go poly while the other may not which makes it a more difficult situation.

Best wishes for success!

Al

 

[Cardinal]

Thank you for the welcome. I have noticed a lot of people seem to go into this reluctantly. I met my wife before she shipped into the Army, and she fell in love with my best friend back home. The last couple years we've had this strange charisma. My best friend recently found out she had (treatable) cancer and wanted to drink her sorrow away.We dropped everything just to be there for her I don't ever recall a night in my life where the three of us were more happy. There wasn't any physical intimacy but we all connected on a very emotional level.

She told us today she wants to do this. We didn't pressure her and actually encouraged her to think about it some more. Alas though she's sure, and if she's sure, we're sure.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Cardinal,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I take it your best friend wants to form a poly unit with you and your wife. It sounds like the three of you are all on the same page about that, you have a harmonious state of agreement. I am glad for you, even if you are nervous about taking this step. Polyamory.com will be there for you to help. Just let us know if you have any questions.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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