Is this really what I'm looking for... or?

Scottsdalegent

New member
I'm Don. I'm in a mono relationship with wife who no longer enjoys sex and I am still at my prime... honestly... I'm looking for women who want to just form a wonderful sexual circle for fun, relaxation, and explore as much sex as we can... I'm not comfortable with guys in the circle... so if I'm in the wrong place, please let me know... and if you are a lady/woman/girl looking to begin something... I'm here! Love to all of you, Don
 

icesong

Moderator
Staff member
I mean, you can want what you want, but there are very few women who want to be in a “sexual circle” where they aren’t allowed as much freedoms to explore with whom they want to as you are, so…

It’s totally cool to not want to interact sexually with other guys, less cool to say other people can’t if they choose to. Might want to read some or all of these:
All that said, it _is_ a thing that happens, you might find women interested.

Welcome to the board.
 

Polymark

New member
BDSM. Get one collard, then have her help you collar the next one and so on. The more you have the more will come. It’s not all that uncommon.
 

icesong

Moderator
Staff member
... um. Are you actually in the BDSM community at all? perhaps it's common in some segments but at least where I am it'd be seriously side-eyed to blatantly pull that sort of thing.
 

Polymark

New member
... um. Are you actually in the BDSM community at all? perhaps it's common in some segments but at least where I am it'd be seriously side-eyed to blatantly pull that sort of thing.

They are the only ones who have an free pass on ethics. Cant beat em, join em!
 

ref2018

Maid of All Work
Staff member
I'm Don. I'm in a mono relationship with wife who no longer enjoys sex and I am still at my prime... honestly... I'm looking for women who want to just form a wonderful sexual circle for fun, relaxation, and explore as much sex as we can... I'm not comfortable with guys in the circle... so if I'm in the wrong place, please let me know... and if you are a lady/woman/girl looking to begin something... I'm here! Love to all of you, Don
Yes, you are in the wrong place for what you describe. This is a forum for polyamory, which is about forming multiple *loving relationships* that may or may not include sex. What you are looking for would fall under nonmonogamy, certainly, but I think a forum for swingers or general nonmonogamy would be a better fit for what you are looking for. However, you are still welcome to participate in the discussions on the forum. Just be aware that hitting on users (whether in public or private messaging) is against the rules, and personal ads belong in the "Dating and Friendships" section of the forum.
 

kdt26417

Official Greeter
Staff member
Greetings Don,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you are looking for a circle of women for sexual fun. I can't tell whether you would want any of these women to catch feelings for you (or vice versa). If you would, that would be polyamory (albeit with an OPP). If there's any way I can help I would be happy to do so. Let me know if you have any questions. It definitely seems like you want things to be consensual all around! That's a good sign.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 

Polymark

New member
I’m talking specifically about the bias in this community. But societally speaking, sure, people are held accountable for gross misconduct sometimes.

People on this website give BDSM a-holes a free pass on ethics because they are under the BDSM title. Read any thread about a BDSM couple and then read a thread with a similar issue but a non BDSM couple and then tell me I’m wrong.
 

Polymark

New member
I'm Don. I'm in a mono relationship with wife who no longer enjoys sex and I am still at my prime... honestly... I'm looking for women who want to just form a wonderful sexual circle for fun, relaxation, and explore as much sex as we can... I'm not comfortable with guys in the circle... so if I'm in the wrong place, please let me know... and if you are a lady/woman/girl looking to begin something... I'm here! Love to all of you, Don

You can also make a tinder profile and date. There are plenty of women looking for casual sex. You might consider that. If you can get a second residence you don’t even need to let people know you are married. As long as it’s strictly casual no harm no foul.
 
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