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AkiSnow

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A friend of mine posted this article on Facebook a while back, I found it interesting, but never imagined it would be relevant to me.

http://kotaku.com/what-games-taught-me-about-having-two-girlfriends-at-on-1511252093

I tried to give up on perusing serious relationships with women recently and got into the MGTOW community a bit. The MGTOW community has given me a lot of strength, and I think polyamory is the next natural step for me.

I recently went on dates and had long conversations with two women I am in love with, both on the same night. I've already told them about each other and they each seem a bit jealous of each other. But that night I was so happy. I shared such a strong connection with each of them, I felt so loved. Then the next morning I cried my entire 30 minute commute to work because I knew I would have to make a choice soon.

One is a girl I've been seeing for about a month now. She has a boyfriend and their relationship is long distance. I've tried to keep things as platonic as possible since she has a boyfriend, but there is an undeniable chemistry between us.

The other is my ex girlfriend (who I dated for 3 years). She has started showing interest in me again. I decided to meet her when she was back in town and we had an amazing conversation. Since breaking up a year ago, I think we've both become very different people. We're both stronger, more independent, more mature and more confident than we were a year ago.

Since finding myself in this situation, I bought the book More Than Two and it's been a breath of fresh air. I'm excited and nervous about where this could lead. I know I might lose them both, but I'd rather be open and honest about my feelings.
 
Greetings AkiSnow,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It makes sense to me that you can just tell the two women you're seeing that you're interested in polyamory and would like to know if that's something they'd be willing to try with you. Even if one or both say/s no, you're still being honest with them and yourself about how you feel and what you want.

"More Than Two" is probably a great book. I'm a really slow reader and am taking my time about investing in the book myself. I'd like to see just how widely-read it becomes, and hear people's reviews. So if you're willing, post on how you like it overall as you continue to read it.

You should be able to find a lot of helpful material on this website as well. Look for the threads and boards that call to you, and don't hesitate to post your questions and/or what have you.

Glad you could join us.
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Thanks for the welcome Kevin! :)

I still haven't finished reading it, but I highly recommend More Than Two. It's made me cry a few times because it has such profoundly true things to say about relationships, whether monogamous or polyamorous. I am atheist now, but I was raised Mormon, and I think Mormon culture conditioned me to naturally cry when a message resonates with me.

So, the girl with the boyfriend turned out to be very insecure... Which I suppose is why she was hanging out with me instead of her boyfriend. I hope she's okay. I'm worried that she misinterpreted my describing polyamory to her came across as me calling her a slut. She's not responding to me now >_<

My ex on the other hand was very interested in polyamory and the principles I described to her from what I read in the book. She is so open-minded and considerate, I'm falling in love with her all over again!
 
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"I am atheist now, but I was raised Mormon ..."
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Wowsers, you too! There must be enough of us on this site to form our own little club. :)

Sorry the idea of poly didn't go down so well with both of the women you were seeing; still, one out of two is encouraging news.
 
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