Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V
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I've spent the last few days at Mary's house (Mary is my recently-ex SIL, of course it's not her real name). This way she could visit my father and his wife with me along for the ride.
My father and his wife have been on a road trip driving up to Vancouver, where they had friends from when they had served as missionaries there. They are headed back south and will end up in Utah where they live.
I don't have any issues with my father per se; as for his wife (my parents divorced quite awhile ago) she is rather controlling (and clueless). Smothering might be a good word. She is actually one of the reasons I don't live in Utah. Contact with her needs to be limited, and contact with my father without her along just isn't possible.
Of course neither of them knows about my poly situation. Only one person in my family knows: my brother, Mary's (recent) ex. As for Mary, she maybe knows halfway but I haven't outed myself to her officially. I don't think she'd be bothered at all if I did out myself. But, Brother-Husband and Snowbunny have asked me not to out myself, so, I am remaining in the closet.
My father and his wife have been on a road trip driving up to Vancouver, where they had friends from when they had served as missionaries there. They are headed back south and will end up in Utah where they live.
I don't have any issues with my father per se; as for his wife (my parents divorced quite awhile ago) she is rather controlling (and clueless). Smothering might be a good word. She is actually one of the reasons I don't live in Utah. Contact with her needs to be limited, and contact with my father without her along just isn't possible.
Of course neither of them knows about my poly situation. Only one person in my family knows: my brother, Mary's (recent) ex. As for Mary, she maybe knows halfway but I haven't outed myself to her officially. I don't think she'd be bothered at all if I did out myself. But, Brother-Husband and Snowbunny have asked me not to out myself, so, I am remaining in the closet.
Feeling extra nervous today, don't know why.
Brother-Husband is off today, he took a mattress to donate, as he and Snowbunny have a new bed with a firm mattress. While he was out he bought lunch, a seven-layer burrito which is my favorite item at Taco Bell.
The cats have a cushion next to me by the window and they are snoozing there right now. And that summarizes today's excitement.
Brother-Husband is off today, he took a mattress to donate, as he and Snowbunny have a new bed with a firm mattress. While he was out he bought lunch, a seven-layer burrito which is my favorite item at Taco Bell.
The cats have a cushion next to me by the window and they are snoozing there right now. And that summarizes today's excitement.
opalescent
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I love muscle cars! One of my hobbies is exotic car spotting. What car did Mary get? (If you can share - totally ok if you can't!)
I'm sorry you're extra nervous today. I hope it passes soon.
I'm sorry you're extra nervous today. I hope it passes soon.
In hopes of losing a few pounds, I am trying to get into the habit of only having one meal per day (dinner). It isn't easy. So far I have been successful today. But it sucks.
Now please, no advice on this one. I can get all kinds of advice if I want it, from lots and lots of people. I need to do this in my own way, the way that makes sense to me.
I drink a lot of water instead of eating. It helps create the illusion that my stomach isn't quite so empty. Plus lots of water is good for me, just nod your head and say yes.
It's been quiet today. Brother-Husband and Snowbunny are both working and the cats are in here with me on their cushion, snoozing. That concludes my report for today.
Now please, no advice on this one. I can get all kinds of advice if I want it, from lots and lots of people. I need to do this in my own way, the way that makes sense to me.
I drink a lot of water instead of eating. It helps create the illusion that my stomach isn't quite so empty. Plus lots of water is good for me, just nod your head and say yes.
It's been quiet today. Brother-Husband and Snowbunny are both working and the cats are in here with me on their cushion, snoozing. That concludes my report for today.
Bummed.
Brother-Husband and Snowbunny are both off today, and I was hoping they'd go on a road trip and take me along. But as it turns out, their plan is to work on the back room (needs organizing). Actually at the moment Brother-Husband is taking a nap, Snowbunny is probably doing computer stuff.
Rats.
Brother-Husband and Snowbunny are both off today, and I was hoping they'd go on a road trip and take me along. But as it turns out, their plan is to work on the back room (needs organizing). Actually at the moment Brother-Husband is taking a nap, Snowbunny is probably doing computer stuff.
Rats.
I actually helped a little with the back room stuff! There were two bins of DVD's and I was assigned to pick out which DVD's I could stand to sell/donate. Some choices were easy, some were hard. For example "Labyrinth," it's a little cheesy and yet it's got muppets, music, and David Bowie and I thought, "Oh, Brother-Husband likes that kind of thing." But I'll let Brother-Husband (and Snowbunny) make the final decision on that one. Ultimately, I chose to keep more DVD's than I wanted to lose, but, I did manage to reduce the total number of DVD's from two plastic bins down to one.
And you thought my life wasn't exciting.
All this talk about DVD's has reminded me of two of my favorite movies: "Steel Magnolias" and "The Insider." Have you seen them? If not, get to work! You won't be disappointed.
And you thought my life wasn't exciting.
All this talk about DVD's has reminded me of two of my favorite movies: "Steel Magnolias" and "The Insider." Have you seen them? If not, get to work! You won't be disappointed.
Snowbunny got off work early today, so we had some extra time to go shopping and watch a couple of episodes (Law & Order, SVU). Brother-Husband and Snowbunny are going to a festival she was invited to. I considered going, but I get tired really early in the evening, so I think I'll just turn in.
Rainee, our Russian blue, loves to sleep on top of my bookcase ... so she is up there now. But since it seems too far for her to jump down, I will fetch a chair from the kitchen so I can pick her up.
I joined Brother-Husband and Snowbunny for a walk that they took yesterday. Along the way there were apple trees and Snowbunny picked some apples. Brother-Husband stepped on an antpile. That freaked him out a little.
That's our V adventures for you.
I joined Brother-Husband and Snowbunny for a walk that they took yesterday. Along the way there were apple trees and Snowbunny picked some apples. Brother-Husband stepped on an antpile. That freaked him out a little.
That's our V adventures for you.
Reverie
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We've been lucky most of this week, and had relatively cool weather outside. I've had most of our windows open until today. Unfortunately the weekend is predicted to be a hot one, up in the 90's tomorrow.
Brother-Husband's work schedule seems to have fixed into a regular pattern, he works Wed-Sat and is off Sun-Tue. Snowbunny is off Sat-Sun, so tomorrow will be my day with her so to speak.
Brother-Husband's work schedule seems to have fixed into a regular pattern, he works Wed-Sat and is off Sun-Tue. Snowbunny is off Sat-Sun, so tomorrow will be my day with her so to speak.
So, what happened is, I got caught in the middle of a conflict between Brother-Husband and Snowbunny. He was using TP at a faster rate than she cared for, so she declined to replenish their supply right away. Then they ran out, and instead of facing Snowbunny about the problem, Brother-Husband started helping himself to my TP supply. Which meant I was going to run out, so I had to face Snowbunny about the problem, and I became the bad guy because I nudged her into a shopping trip on a day when she did not want to shop. I have no car and don't drive, I rely on Snowbunny to take me shopping.
I suppose Brother-Husband could have driven himself to the grocery store, but why do that when my stash of TP is easy to get to, right? Sigh.
But I feel obligated to not complain, because I only do about 1% of the work in this house. I guess if my job is to be a pillow between Brother-Husband and Snowbunny when they have a conflict, I should just do that job and be glad that's all I have to do. Seriously.
It all seems to have blown over, though I'm still feeling cautious. I didn't sleep well last night. I actually didn't realize I'd been used (as described above) til I woke up in the middle of the night (and the middle of a nightmare). It took me like five hours to get back to sleep.
[shrug] My first world problems.
I suppose Brother-Husband could have driven himself to the grocery store, but why do that when my stash of TP is easy to get to, right? Sigh.
But I feel obligated to not complain, because I only do about 1% of the work in this house. I guess if my job is to be a pillow between Brother-Husband and Snowbunny when they have a conflict, I should just do that job and be glad that's all I have to do. Seriously.It all seems to have blown over, though I'm still feeling cautious. I didn't sleep well last night. I actually didn't realize I'd been used (as described above) til I woke up in the middle of the night (and the middle of a nightmare). It took me like five hours to get back to sleep.
[shrug] My first world problems.
opalescent
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I snarfed down my pasta with pesto yesterday at dinner, I tell ya. Hope you got delicious food!
Mary's car sounds fab. I'm more of a Mustang fan myself.
Mary's car sounds fab. I'm more of a Mustang fan myself.
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Yeah, Mustangs are pretty cool.
I actually ordered a big Mediterranean salad for dinner (with feta cheese and olives). But I had chocolate cake for dessert (to make up for it).
I keep reminding myself that even when I do eat, I'm still hungry afterwards. I'm pretty sure it's a head hunger. An illusion of hunger, if you will. (A rather convincing illusion.) Last time they weighed me I was 245 pounds. That's unacceptable. I'm only 5'10" and I used to weigh 180-190. Back in the good old days. I don't have a specific goal now, I just want to eat less and weigh less.
I actually ordered a big Mediterranean salad for dinner (with feta cheese and olives). But I had chocolate cake for dessert (to make up for it).
I keep reminding myself that even when I do eat, I'm still hungry afterwards. I'm pretty sure it's a head hunger. An illusion of hunger, if you will. (A rather convincing illusion.) Last time they weighed me I was 245 pounds. That's unacceptable. I'm only 5'10" and I used to weigh 180-190. Back in the good old days. I don't have a specific goal now, I just want to eat less and weigh less.