Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

1:48 p.m., Monday the 20th

SB chose for us to eat out at a Brazilian place, Texas de Brazil, in Tacoma. Really expensive, like $50.00 per person. Obviously we wouldn't be going there often. But very enjoyable. Awesome food.

We got home late, but BH still wanted to watch GoT:S8E6. By the time we got done watching it, it was after midnight. It got mixed reviews, but I liked it. It tied up all the loose ends as well as possible, especially after all the craziness in Episode Five.

At a little after 1:00 p.m. today (not long ago), SB left to go to a dental appointment. (She's off work today.) BH went with her, but she asked me not to go, she said she didn't want a big entourage at this appointment. Bummer, but I guess I am okay with it. After they get back, I might be going with her to get a couple of shots my doctor recommended (tetanus and shingles). I'm down with that.

This last Saturday, SB took me to get my blood drawn for routine lab work. The results were in by earlier today, and I guess my kidneys are struggling a bit. Not so much that you'd be alarmed, but enough to make some dietary changes. Less red meat, more veggies, and less dairy. At first when SB told me this, I was a little bummed. Less cheese?? but then it dawned on me that I am getting up there in years, I have already enjoyed lots of cheese for one lifetime. I can live with cutting back. Better that than to end up on dialysis, right? I'm gonna die eventually, but I'd rather not go in that particular way. I'm even thinking about (mostly) giving up coffee, as I am definitely a cream-in-my-coffee type of guy.
 
3:53 p.m., Wednesday the 22nd

I discussed the coffee thing with Snowbunny; she suggested I could have almond milk in it instead of half and half. I said yeah I can do that.

We didn't go and get my shots on Monday, we went Tuesday (yesterday) instead. At Tim's pharmacy (which is close enough that we walked). They did not have the shingles shot available at this time, but I did get the tetanus shot. At least I think it was a shot. I didn't feel a thing, weird but I'm not complaining. Today I have a slight soreness in my shoulder, which is the only evidence that I got the shot.

I think Brother-Husband was/is a little bummed about what all happened in the final Game of Thrones episode; he said he is kind of "burned out" on the series for the moment. So, we are just watching Sneaky Pete episodes for now. We watched the first episode on Monday. No episodes yesterday.

I'm quite hungry right now, but I must hang in there until dinner. What sounds really good right now is some Planter's salted/roasted peanuts. I think I'll get some the next time we go shopping.
 
1:27 p.m., Friday the 24th

Well later on this last Wednesday, SB stopped at Safeway on her way home from work, to pick up her script, so she called and asked if I wanted her to get anything for me and I said peanuts. Which she graciously did. One less thing ...

Eddie's third class started yesterday, it is on Thursdays rather than Saturdays like his first two classes. I came along for the ride, as usual; SB called me when she got close to home, to pick me (and Eddie) up. We actually got there quite a bit early, there was a Subway nearby so we got six-inch sandwiches for dinner. BH did not go with us, so he had a TV dinner. The class started at 7:30 p.m., we got home at about 9:30 p.m. ... as I do during these classes I stayed in the car and read from a couple of books. Days are long (especially here in the North), so I had enough light to read throughout the class. Driving to and fro, SB and I had opportunity to chat. On the way over there, Eddie got carsick and vomited. Luckily there was a protector sheet in the back where he was, so we just have to wash the sheet. Also SB gave him a bath when we got home.

This concludes my riport.
 
4:08 p.m., Monday the 27th

So Snowbunny does have one vice that I can think of at this time. She gets in a frame of mind where, no matter what you do or say, she will find a way to shoot it down. This is what happened this last Saturday, and I was already feeling more fragile than usual. So, she was shooting me down, one way after another, and I guess I reached a kind of threshold where I couldn't process it anymore, and I got flooded. I started to clam up. After awhile, she stopped shooting me down for a moment, and asked if I was mad at her for some reason. I said, "I guess I'm just tired of all the negativity." She said, "Do you feel like I've been picking on you?" I said, "I guess that's one way of putting it." She said, "Sorry."

Which was a pretty good thing of her to say under the circumstances. But apologizing isn't the same thing as changing, is it? I was still flooded, feeling like a failure, and not feeling optimistic. Not to overemphasize the point, but I was feeling really, really awful. Much worse than usual. I felt like that for the rest of the evening, and if anything woke up the next day (yesterday, Sunday) feeling even worse. I continued to feel flooded like that for most of the day, I wasn't good for much. Things maybe improved slightly at the end of the day, but I was still far from my normal state of low-key stress. Today, things have definitely improved more, at least I have been functional, but I'm still not back to normal. You see, once I hit that threshold, it is hard to go back.

Snowbunny has not shot me down anymore since her apology, which is of course a good thing. However, I'm still waiting for the other shoe to drop. Brother-Husband has been around, so perhaps you could say he has been keeping her occupied. She is off today, Memorial Day, he is off too, as he usually is on Mondays, he will be working tomorrow but she will be home for some guys to come over and install a couple of A/C-and-heat-pump units. So without Brother-Husband around to occupy her mind, maybe she'll start shooting me down again? probably not, I know that mentally, but emotionally I am filled with anxiety about the possibility. Heck even if it doesn't happen tomorrow, it's bound to happen eventually. She can't just change her habits overnight.
 
1:12 p.m., Tuesday the 28th

Well the other shoe has not dropped yet. Things are a little tense around here though. The guys are over here installing the units. SB went to get them some pizza, she knows I'm not that big on pizza so she offered to pick up a seven-layer burrito for me at Taco Bell. I was okay with that.

Still feeling more stressed-out than usual, better but still not back to normal. I am less trusting today than I was early on Saturday. Or maybe I am just learning how to adjust my expectations. SB is good at being in charge, I think she is comfortable with that role, BH and I are also both comfortable with that. Sometimes she uses negativity to enforce her wishes, if that makes any sense. Like I said not one of her virtues, but there are worse vices she could have.

Hopefully I'll just detox over the next few days, and things will get back to normal. And maybe I'll just be a little more wary/cautious in the future ...
 
3:46 p.m., Wednesday the 29th

No shoe-dropping yet. (Unless you count the fact that one of my pairs of shoes got "dropped" into the garbage can, after Eddie tore them up. Good dog. :mad:) I suppose it's possible that SB feels like she's walking on eggshells around me. Then again, it's possible she's not even thinking about it. SB is not the type to hold back on how she really feels about something. So if she was straining herself to hang on to that second shoe, I would probably know about it. Right?

The heat-pump/AC units got successfully installed. The AC in the living room is on. Seems like overkill, it's only 71° out right now. Friday and Saturday will be in the upper 70's, so that's a little more appropriate. I've got my bedroom/bathroom windows open, and my bedroom door is mostly closed (as it normally is), so hopefully I won't get in trouble? Guess I'll find out. I'm just about back to normal, although my wariness levels are still elevated.
 
4:33 p.m., Friday the 31st

The second session of Eddie's third class was yesterday, we went early again, as soon as SB got home (from work). We tried a different place for dinner, I think it's called Pick Quick. Kind of an old-fashioned hamburger joint; you walk up to the window and place your order. I got a Coney Island hot dog, it was really good. They had lots of picnic tables, including some in the shade, so that's where we ate and Eddie sat outside with us. A great arrangement for our situation; we'll probably eat there next week as well.

SB was off today and did a lot to get ready for a garage sale we are going to have (this weekend?). She and I may be going to Walmart a little later this evening. I'm mostly just hungry for dinner.

SB is also off this coming Monday and Tuesday (and tomorrow and Sunday but that's normal); perhaps on Tuesday we'll watch the Robin Hood movie that the dental assistant recommended (see 5:05 p.m., Friday the 3rd). We've got to see that movie before my next dental appointment (otherwise I'll be embarrassed). SB does want to see it, she's just a very busy person.

Things seem to be going pretty well for now. This concludes my riport.
 
5:06 p.m., Saturday the 1st

Well everything did not get done soon enough to do the garage sale today; however BH and SB are saying they'll do it tomorrow. BH will be off work, so that will work out well for me.

SB's done a little bit of the negativity thing the last couple of days. Like I said it was bound to happen at some point, I just hoped I would handle it okay when it did happen. I guess I've handled it pretty well so far.
 
11:00 a.m., Sunday the 2nd

So, I think they are doing the garage sale now, or at least getting set up for it. It's a little cool out right now but I've opened my windows anyway. The clouds are starting to burn off, and it's supposed to get up to 75° today. Not a lot to report today, this is all I have for now.
 
1:06 p.m., Monday the 3rd

SB had some kind of dental surgery today, BH drove her to that appointment, I don't know what time they'll get back. SB will have dietary restrictions for a few months, like soft food only.

It sounds like the garage sale went pretty well, they sold most of the stuff, SB says they may sell the rest on eBay, or even donate some of it to Goodwill.

It's a little cooler today, but weirdly it doesn't feel cooler and I still have my windows open. This is my riport.
 
12:50 p.m., Tuesday the 4th

The high today is supposed to be 73°, it is 67° right now. My windows are open. The next four days are going to be in the 60's, Friday 58°. Then things will warm up into the 70's and low 80's.

We ate out yesterday for dinner at Mr. Doug's. After we got back, SB and I watched the Robin Hood movie. It was pretty good, although perhaps nothing to write home about. They tried to put some historical information into the plot, which is hard to do when you're telling a story from that far back in time. Some of the things that happen in the film, you just kind of go, "Whoa! Why did that happen?"

SB is off today (BH is at work), but no special plans. We might take the dog out for a walk later on.
 
5:37 p.m., Wednesday the 5th

Last night, the three of us watched the final episode of Chernobyl. The whole series is really excellent, all five episodes are outstanding. If you haven't seen it, I highly recommend it.

I have been fasting today and am super hungry. SB got home around 4:00 p.m., hopefully BH will get home soon with dinner following shortly after.

Eddie has been poorly behaved today. I think he destroyed another shoe which was his worst crime; also he unrolled the TP in their bathroom, and he barked like Hell for about half an hour while SB talked to her mom on the phone in the driveway.

Must ... endure ... until ... dinner ...
 
3:16 p.m., Friday the 7th

We had Amy's enchiladas for dinner (this last Wednesday). No episodes (as BH was tired out). After dinner, I proceeded to do my usual bathroom things which included sitting down and taking a leak. Lady (one of the cats) joined me as she sometimes does, keeping me company. Only this time she did more than that. She climbed into my shorts, made herself comfortable, weird but okay, but then she blithely wet all over my shorts, socks, and the floor. WTF!!!??? She's never had an accident before and besides, this was no accident. Needless to say, I will not be letting her join me in the bathroom in the future. :eek: :mad: :(

The third session of Eddie's third class was yesterday, SB and I had dinner at Pick-Quick. SB also ordered a hamburger patty for Eddie, he was pretty pleased about that. SB brought a (sharp) knife and a fork to cut up her food (remember that dental surgery), also we had a couple of bottled drinks (green tea) which we had bought at the fruit market. SB put all that stuff in a bag after we ate. Then, in the car, I reached into the bag to get my bottled drink. I forgot the knife was in there, and squarely nailed it with my left pinky. Ow! Luckily SB had a couple of band-aids for me.

The temperature right now is 54°, and I've closed my windows. Temps will steadily rise over the next five days until a high of 91° this next coming Wednesday. Then they'll steadily fall until a high of 76° a week from today. Weird weather. It's rainy today but it will not rain again anywhere in the forecast. This concludes my riport.
 
12:29 p.m., Sunday the 9th

So, a little about my sex life, for those for whom the info might be helpful ... or even just for the curious. As we get older things change, things change in our bodies. Snowbunny has gone through a change, where intercourse has become painful for her. The standard medical advice is to start taking estrogen, but that messes with her blood pressure. We have also tried several kinds of lubricant but nothing seems to help. So we have come to the conclusion that we will have to try other stuff instead of intercourse.

We don't have sex often, maybe once every other week and even then, every other time has been just her doing stuff for me. I guess I would say neither of us is interested in more than that, we used to be interested in more but as I said, as we get older things change. So bottom line is, we were doing intercourse about once a month, but yesterday we tried other stuff instead of intercourse. I said that what would work best for me is, first I would do stuff for her, then the encounter would end with her doing stuff for me. So then she had the idea of, the encounter would start with me giving her a back/neck rub. For me these days that is not erotic, it's just work, but for her it is somewhat erotic and really relaxing, one of her favorite things. I figure if I can't give her intercourse (which she truly loves, when it's not painful obviously), a back/neck rub is the least I can do.

Beyond that, we didn't have much of a battle plan or a road map, and I was nervous about that. I told her I would probably need some guidance. As it turned out, once the encounter got under way, I started leaning toward oral sex, you know, going down on her, down there. I haven't tried that with her for years, quite a few years I think, and the last time I tried it she said it was way too intense for her taste, like it made her too sensitive. So I was hesitant to try it now, heck I even worried I myself might not be into it like I once was, but as it turned out I was into it, and she was too, she gave me clear guidance to do more.

As she said afterwards, sex without the pain was extremely pleasurable for her, I think she just had one orgasm but it was really intense. So, that's probably going to be our new routine, possibly with some slight modifications, at least once a month or maybe twice a month, still figuring that part out. Others might crave more variety, but what we do works for us. Anyway if you have any questions, let me know.
 
3:27 p.m., Monday the 10th

Yesterday, BH and SB went to a ballgame. I am not what you would call a sports fan, so I stayed home. My ex-SIL and her husband met them there. It was probably a Mariners' game. It seems that the Mariners lost, boo ... but SB was still happy for the chance to chat with ex-SIL.

After they got back from the ballgame, BH, SB, and I went out to a local place (Kinja) for dinner. SB and I had sushi. :D I am usually most comfortable with my routines, and struggle to adapt to change. And one of my routines, when it comes to sushi, is to have a rainbow roll.

A rainbow roll is expensive ($13.00 in this case), and SB wanted to forgo it. She wanted to try one or two new kinds of roll instead. At first I was uncomfortable with that idea, but then I thought, "Well, it's a change, what the heck. If I try something new, I might like it."

After that I went with the flow, and enjoyed all the rolls that we had. BH is not as big on sushi as I am (or even as SB is), so he had something else. Their special yesterday was a teriyaki chicken dish, so he went with that. As for episodes, it did not work out for us to watch any.

This concludes my riport.
 
4:05 p.m., Tuesday the 11th

Okay, it wasn't a Mariners game, I think it might have been minor league.

BH was off yesterday (as per usual on Mondays), SB got home fairly early from work, so dinner was also fairly early, and BH and I had time afterwards to watch a movie. He wanted to see "The Nun," which was fine by me. SB is not a horror flick fan, so she worked on "her piles" of stuff in the kitchen, while we watched our movie.

Hopefully dinner tonight will be fairly early, I'm hungry. Thursday will be Eddie's next class session, his fourth session in this class. As far as I know his behavior has been okay today so far. This concludes my riport.
 
4:11 p.m., Wednesday the 12th

Not much news to report today, dinner was a little on the late side yesterday so no episodes, also no episodes tonight because there's an important hockey game BH wants to watch. Playoffs for the Stanley Cup, I believe.

It's rather hot today, 88° at the moment with a high of 90°. The next week will be much milder, 70° to 80° each day. I'll be able to open my windows.
 
1:26 p.m., Thursday the 13th

Okay actually it was *the* last game, Game Seven of the last set of (up to seven) games. Whoever won last night's game won the Cup. (I do not know who won.) Okay I just looked at Wikipedia, and the St. Louis Blues defeated the Boston Bruins. The Blues take the Cup, a first for the Blues.

It's 77° out right now, and will get up to 78°. My windows are open. All temps for the next week will range from 70° to 80°. It's great.

Eddie's class is today. SB and I will eat out for dinner before the class, we might eat at Pick-Quick but who knows.
 
2:01 p.m., Friday the 14th

It is a lot cooler today, 64° at the moment and the high will be 71°. Yesterday was rather warm, but it cooled off fast during the evening hours. Eddie learned some new commands at his class, his volcabulary is growing. There is no rain in the forecast, however it's very cloudy today and I wouldn't be surprised if it rained. SB and I got home fairly late last night, and BH and I did not watch any episodes. This concludes my jumbled riport.
 
1:43 p.m., Sunday the 16th

Today, at about 8:30 a.m., BH and SB left with Eddie to take him on a barn hunt. They are not sure how long they'll be gone, or when they'll get back. I don't know whether we'll eat out tonight, we ate out last night at a place called Ichiban (Itchy Bum! :)). After dinner BH and I watched an episode of Sneaky Pete.

The traffic was really bad yesterday, they were doing construction on I-5. I don't know whether it's still bad today. This concludes my riport.
 
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