Late Bloomer

[jennifer42498]

New to this. Let's just say after 2 long term relationships (19 years and 20 years) and trying to be what someone wanted me to be, I caught on at last. With the death of my husband 3 years ago from pancreatic cancer I really started reevaluating what I want in a relationship and totally surprised myself in that polyamory actually seems to click with me. I am currently seeing a guy that is in a relationship with another woman. We know about one another and you know what...I am totally ok with it. He and I have great communication skills. She is herself, I am myself. 2 totally different roles in his life. I am looking to connect with another person in a LTR that starts as friends, not just a hookup.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings jennifer42498,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Sounds like you have gone on quite a journey to arrive at poly here and now. You will find a lot of useful material here, and we have a Dating & Friendships board, but you should also check out OKCupid for long-term dating. In the meantime, have a look at our various threads and boards, and let us know if you have any questions. Enjoy!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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Welcome aboard!

 

[Al99]

Hi Jennifer - and welcome to the Forum! It sounds like you have a mature perspective on polyamory and are off to a good start on this journey. We will look forward to hearing more of your story as it unfolds. Please do hesitate to post any specific questions and thoughts that you may have.

There are a number of good books available on the various aspects of poly but several of us believe that Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino to be the best general introduction to polyamory. (Available in hard copy or digital from Amazon et al.)

Also, here is is a link to a list of several of the best poly web sites:

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=108191

Again, welcome!

Al