Long Distance Mono/Poly

Gidget

Gidget

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Howdy, everyone!

51, female, kinky, sub, mono in love with an awesome poly Dom guy who lives about 1.5 hours away by car, 3 by bus/train (which is how I travel). We've been seeing each other for about 2 months now and it's pretty hot.

Although I'm not poly, I've been poly-adjacent for decades. In other words, some of my best friends are poly. So, I've seen the best and worst of what it can be, but it's just never really been for me. Heck, I have enough trouble at a party where there are more than 3 people... I definitely prefer my relationships to be one-on-one.

However, what we have is working and I believe, strongly, that it is because we communicate like crazy! All honesty, all the time. Ask. Tell. Talk. He understands that I get twitchy sometimes and he's really great about letting me work through it. He's got a couple others in his life and I've met and LIKE them! (he's got great taste)

The biggest challenge is the distance and the extreme limits that puts on our actual time together. I'm most envious that the others are close enough to pop over anytime they want to while I have to wait for the odd weekend or random day off. *pouty face here*

So I'm super excited to dive into this world and am looking forward to all the advice and cool folks I'm sure I'll get on here.

Thanks and Hello!!

Gidget
 
Greetings Gidget,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Long-distance relationships are always hard. It's extra hard in your case because your Dom guy has other partners nearby. Will either of you move someday to be closer to each other?

We'll help however we can.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Greeting!

Hi Gidget,

Thanks for joining me on here. I've been here since 2010 (wow!), it's a great resource. See you soon!
 
kdt26417 said:
Greetings Gidget,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Long-distance relationships are always hard. It's extra hard in your case because your Dom guy has other partners nearby. Will either of you move someday to be closer to each other?
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Thanks! We're making it work really well (so far) with phone calls and texts and I've been able to get down to visit him at least once a week. I think I'll eventually move closer to where he is, but right now it's not really in the cards.
 
sdguitarguy said:
Hi Gidget,

Thanks for joining me on here. I've been here since 2010 (wow!), it's a great resource. See you soon!
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Hello, Sir

Thank you for suggesting this. Maybe I'll also be able to help other mono folks find love in a poly world. <3
See you Friday!
 
Sounds like you guys are working things out pretty well. Sending you my best wishes for the future.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Aw!!

^.^

So I've sustained a pretty great thing with my Zen Sadist since last November, and while we might get to meet up for lunch or something in between, for the most part we visit (sex visits and/or attending a party together) about once a week. I think that weekly is a good frequency to keep up a pretty good connection, and I think that 1.5 hours apart is not too terrible.

So long as no other big life stuff jumps out in front of you two, I don't feel like those things are huge obstacles for ya. Sounds like you've got a good thing going on!
 
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