PolynNorway
New member
Hi and thanks for letting me join your group.
I was introduced to polyamory by my now ex Norwegian wife who is Bisexual. I was very resistant to the idea originally as I saw it as a cultural deviance which would invite further whimsical expressions and lead to a corruption of values within the family leading to it's destruction.
I am a very disciplined person and live a very principled life. Although I am not opposed to superfluous hedonism, I look for meaningful expressions in life beyond physical enjoyment or pleasure [Although I have nothing against it].
Anyway, to make a very, very long story short, I lived with several women for many years. At one time it was 5 [3 Norwegian and 2 Asian] but mostly two. We have lived in Oslo, Norway, for now 19 years.
I have 2 children with one of the Norwegian women and 3 with the other.
The truth is that this experiences have been both, tremendously rewarding and also a living hell.
Basically the negatives extend from both intrinsic and extrinsic factors to the relationship, and these all being in a continuum as the extrinsic becomes intrinsic at some point and vice versa.
One would think that the environment for such a lifestyle would be more agreeable and acceptable in the Norwegian culture. There is a great misconception with regards to Norway. In as much as this appears to the outsider to be a very open and tolerant society, it is in fact not. It is a very conservative society based on years of strict protestantism. Yes the intent to appear as accepting and flexible is very much overt, but not consistent with the deep values within the Norwegian culture which are conservative nationalistic. Racism and other kinds of intolerance are not openly displayed but are very much a part of the culture.
Anyway, I have seen a lot here, and experienced much particularly because of Polyamory. Because of this being the natural experssion of who I am, many see me as "perverted" while others tolerate my lifestyle as one would also tolerate a "fetish". Even when things have not worked out, I have learned a lot about what this is.
Polyamory is not a cultural choice, it is a natural imperative. Not expressing our true nature leads to the corruption and confusion of the inner self. Polyamory is a cultural must, as are the expressions of all other forms of natural relationships.
There is of course a lot more about us but I will cut it here, as I am sure this could become pages of bla bla bla that would be even less interesting than a short bla bla would be.
Again, thank you for accepting me in your forum and feel good to be around people like myself.
I was introduced to polyamory by my now ex Norwegian wife who is Bisexual. I was very resistant to the idea originally as I saw it as a cultural deviance which would invite further whimsical expressions and lead to a corruption of values within the family leading to it's destruction.
I am a very disciplined person and live a very principled life. Although I am not opposed to superfluous hedonism, I look for meaningful expressions in life beyond physical enjoyment or pleasure [Although I have nothing against it].
Anyway, to make a very, very long story short, I lived with several women for many years. At one time it was 5 [3 Norwegian and 2 Asian] but mostly two. We have lived in Oslo, Norway, for now 19 years.
I have 2 children with one of the Norwegian women and 3 with the other.
The truth is that this experiences have been both, tremendously rewarding and also a living hell.
Basically the negatives extend from both intrinsic and extrinsic factors to the relationship, and these all being in a continuum as the extrinsic becomes intrinsic at some point and vice versa.
One would think that the environment for such a lifestyle would be more agreeable and acceptable in the Norwegian culture. There is a great misconception with regards to Norway. In as much as this appears to the outsider to be a very open and tolerant society, it is in fact not. It is a very conservative society based on years of strict protestantism. Yes the intent to appear as accepting and flexible is very much overt, but not consistent with the deep values within the Norwegian culture which are conservative nationalistic. Racism and other kinds of intolerance are not openly displayed but are very much a part of the culture.
Anyway, I have seen a lot here, and experienced much particularly because of Polyamory. Because of this being the natural experssion of who I am, many see me as "perverted" while others tolerate my lifestyle as one would also tolerate a "fetish". Even when things have not worked out, I have learned a lot about what this is.
Polyamory is not a cultural choice, it is a natural imperative. Not expressing our true nature leads to the corruption and confusion of the inner self. Polyamory is a cultural must, as are the expressions of all other forms of natural relationships.
There is of course a lot more about us but I will cut it here, as I am sure this could become pages of bla bla bla that would be even less interesting than a short bla bla would be.
Again, thank you for accepting me in your forum and feel good to be around people like myself.
