Looking for friends and support in the New Hampshire area

[PleasurePainNH]

Hello all new member here. I’m currently looking to make some new friends in the poly community in my area. I’ve done the munches even though there really aren’t any near me anymore and I just never had a sense of belonging. I had my heartbroken about three months ago and something had come up yesterday that retriggered the emotions all over again. I’m married to my best friend and I have a secondary ddlg relationship with a non-poly woman. She’s learning every day about it and I’m so proud of her for her accomplishments so far. She’s talked about maybe seeing someone else if the opportunity arises and I’ve agreed that it would be ok. Enough of my story. I would love to find some down to earth people in my area to connect with for friendship and support for my wife and I mostly. I feel that even though we’ve been doing this for three years now I still have a lot to learn and would be very appreciative of any advice from others. I live in souther NH and would prefer not to travel to Boston to accomplish this. I know that there has got to be more people like me around these parts. Sorry for the long post. I look forward to hearing from you.

 

[kdt26417]

Hello PleasurePainNH,

I do not live in your area, however with as many members as we have there must be someone nearby, hopefully they'll chime in. As far as any advice I'd give, I'll just start with the standard mantra of "communicate, communicate, communicate." Which I imagine you're probably already doing. Also learn as much about polyamory as you can. This forum has some great threads for you to explore, also there are some off-site resources. Here's a few links for you to check out:

• Master Thread - links to other threads worth reading
• Poly FAQ
• Polyamory Websites
• Glossary and Definitions thread
• "More than Two: a practical guide to ethical polyamory," a book by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert.
• "Opening Up: a guide to creating and sustaining open relationships," a book by Tristan Taormino.
• What If I Get Jealous?
• Poly Vignettes: Sharing Success & Happiness

And I can provide other links specific to your situation. Let me know what would help.
Regards,
Kevin T.

 

[PleasurePainNH]

Thank you so much. This is much appreciated.

 

[kdt26417]

No prob.

 

[SirGary]

Hi...

It sounds like there many layers to you and your dynamic. We also live in Southern NH (Salem), and there is a ddlg and bdsm dynamic to us also.

Reach out and let's compare notes...

(kdt26417 did present several really good options...)

 

[tallbosguy]

I'm a bit further away than Gary but not too far. PM me if you'd like.