Hello, I'm Ferrin, and I recently found myself in a polyamory situation as if by chance. So I thought I'd get involved with the community and educate myself on this more. Seek advice, that sort of thing. A little about my situation.
I've been married to a wonderful woman for 8 years. Before we were married she was single polyamory. And we began our relationship with the understanding that it would be open. The thing is, it never came up. Neither one of us ever even tried for a one night stand after we got together. We've had kids, built a life, and have an extremely strong marriage.
And then we decided to get a roommate. My wife was working with this woman who was looking for a place, she was just out of a seriously dysfunctional relationship with a guy who claimed to by polyamory but I suspect just liked to manipulate women. Anyway, we invited her as a roommate to live with us. Didn't have any expectations or goals in mind as to adding anyone as a third when we did so.
But after about a week, this woman starts flirting with me. Nothing to overt or sexual, but she was definitely letting me know she was attracted to me. So I tell my wife. Who laughs at me and tells me if I think I can, I'm more than welcome to try. Our new roommate is ten years younger than I am. She's 21, extremely attractive, and bi-sexual. So naturally my wife of 8 years thinks its all in my head. We hadn't talked about being open in years, but really our feelings on it hadn't changed, we just hadn't been to interested in anyone. So I got the greenlight.
I begin flirting back with this woman, and it eventually gets to the point where I can't be mistaken. She's into me. So I call her out on it, straight up, "you're flirting with me" and she doesn't deny it. And we talked about it, I told her about my wife and I's views on polyamory. And then asked her if she would be interested in dating me. She says yes.
It's been a few weeks since then. And so far I think I'm doing pretty well. Jealousy hasn't really been an issue lately, I've connected really well with this girl, and so has my wife. They hang out, they play games together, and take turns teasing me. In fact my wife takes a certain pleasure from her blunt humor making me blush in front of my girlfriend. Who finds it hilarious as well.
I'm not sleeping with the new girlfriend yet, because we had basically just met, and she lives here. Plus the really messed up nature of her last relationship, she wants to take the physical part slow. Not to say that she isn't interested, her body language, our conversations tell me that she is. I think she just needs to be more comfortable in her place before she takes that leap.
A goddamned Unicorn literally walked into my living room, decided she liked it there and stayed. I mean if I sat down and made a list of everything I needed in a woman, she hits every item on the list. I don't want to mess it up. But, I've been married for 8 years, and I'll be honest here I'm a little out of practice on the whole dating thing. And that's only compounded by the fact I've never been in a poly situation before, wife has and she helps, but it's all really new to me.
I've been married to a wonderful woman for 8 years. Before we were married she was single polyamory. And we began our relationship with the understanding that it would be open. The thing is, it never came up. Neither one of us ever even tried for a one night stand after we got together. We've had kids, built a life, and have an extremely strong marriage.
And then we decided to get a roommate. My wife was working with this woman who was looking for a place, she was just out of a seriously dysfunctional relationship with a guy who claimed to by polyamory but I suspect just liked to manipulate women. Anyway, we invited her as a roommate to live with us. Didn't have any expectations or goals in mind as to adding anyone as a third when we did so.
But after about a week, this woman starts flirting with me. Nothing to overt or sexual, but she was definitely letting me know she was attracted to me. So I tell my wife. Who laughs at me and tells me if I think I can, I'm more than welcome to try. Our new roommate is ten years younger than I am. She's 21, extremely attractive, and bi-sexual. So naturally my wife of 8 years thinks its all in my head. We hadn't talked about being open in years, but really our feelings on it hadn't changed, we just hadn't been to interested in anyone. So I got the greenlight.
I begin flirting back with this woman, and it eventually gets to the point where I can't be mistaken. She's into me. So I call her out on it, straight up, "you're flirting with me" and she doesn't deny it. And we talked about it, I told her about my wife and I's views on polyamory. And then asked her if she would be interested in dating me. She says yes.
It's been a few weeks since then. And so far I think I'm doing pretty well. Jealousy hasn't really been an issue lately, I've connected really well with this girl, and so has my wife. They hang out, they play games together, and take turns teasing me. In fact my wife takes a certain pleasure from her blunt humor making me blush in front of my girlfriend. Who finds it hilarious as well.
I'm not sleeping with the new girlfriend yet, because we had basically just met, and she lives here. Plus the really messed up nature of her last relationship, she wants to take the physical part slow. Not to say that she isn't interested, her body language, our conversations tell me that she is. I think she just needs to be more comfortable in her place before she takes that leap.
A goddamned Unicorn literally walked into my living room, decided she liked it there and stayed. I mean if I sat down and made a list of everything I needed in a woman, she hits every item on the list. I don't want to mess it up. But, I've been married for 8 years, and I'll be honest here I'm a little out of practice on the whole dating thing. And that's only compounded by the fact I've never been in a poly situation before, wife has and she helps, but it's all really new to me.
