Managing sleep

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Threefwb

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We have an amazing new friends with benefits relationship with a lady friend which both make amazing love with. We have been swingers for decades and never expected this to happen And increasing we are becoming emotionally close too. We meet every second weekend. But maybe because it is new we have nonstop sex whenever we meet, and it means that we are not getting any sleep. This sounds great but it's actually quite a problem as we are not getting any younger and have to work on Monday! How to manage this in long term. Maybe we might move in together but now as we only see each other when we can. I know it's a great problem too have but I can see this as an upcoming problem, we have tried seperate beds for part of the night but this is not working either as its hard not to be three in a bed.
Any advice?
 
Threefwb said:
We have an amazing new friends with benefits relationship with a lady friend which both make amazing love with. We have been swingers for decades and never expected this to happen And increasing we are becoming emotionally close too. We meet every second weekend. But maybe because it is new we have nonstop sex whenever we meet, and it means that we are not getting any sleep. This sounds great but it's actually quite a problem as we are not getting any younger and have to work on Monday! How to manage this in long term. Maybe we might move in together but now as we only see each other when we can. I know it's a great problem too have but I can see this as an upcoming problem, we have tried seperate beds for part of the night but this is not working either as its hard not to be three in a bed.
Any advice?
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It eventually settles down but if I were you I'd say no sleeping over Sunday night and you guest needs to leave at a reasonable hour. I need at least 6:hours sleep so if I'm amped up I'll take a sleep aid if need be.
 
Hi Threefwb,

You said you meet with your lady friend every second weekend. While sleep is an issue, every second weekend doesn't sound too often to me. Maybe it's okay to do without a little sleep that often?

If not, take Inyourendo's advice. And enjoy your excellent trio relationship!
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Thanks

Thanks for your advice guys, been thinking about getting seperate quilts so middle one does not get so hot and perhaps top and tailing in bed?
But I agree a wonderful problem to have. And yes I know every second weekend does not seem so much but it is three nights and we seem to keep going contously for hours and hours so we need to improve our fitness! We only occasionally went to swingers parties, but this is so much better when loving gets injected into the mix its like we are energiser bunnies. But my wife is 60 and I am 55 so we do need our sleep don't want any tired grumpiness spooling the fun. Thanks again and keep the advice coming.
 
We do the extra sheets and two blankets things when we are all Co sleeping. 3 twin sheets and two blankets. That way I don't steal lady's blanket as I'm a blanket thief. It also allows real who is in the middle to be able to kick a foot out if he gets too hot. Sleep is important and means you have energy for morning fun. Good luck.
 
When I was in a closed triad with Snow & Blue, we also had the same problem when we spent the night together as a three. We didn't do the separate blankets, but I think that's a good idea. Daytime naps also help, or sleeping in when your schedule allows. And, as inyourendo said, it does eventually settle down.
 
Start your romps earlier so you have time to actually sleep? I mean, you are all grown-ups with commitments and the ability to manage your lives - if you know you need to sleep in order to function well at work the next day, then stop fucking and go to sleep!
 
Yes but

Hi nycindy yes I take your point about being adults, but part of the fun of this is that we feel like kids in a candy shop. We actually start playing as soon as we see each other. Even the elevator gets a workout on the way up to the apartment. But yes next time we will try to schedule time for sleep.

The other challenge around sleep is about feeling self conscious around new bed mates when it comes to how we are when we are asleep. The truth is our wife uses a sleep apnea mask ( or snores) and our fwb snores when on her back.
The downside is We are busy telling each other how we feel that our playmates are all sex gods and goddesses, but we don't want to show we are all too human. I wish we could have no vanity.
Yet I really love that we are human too I would much rather sleep with them than a team of supermodels, part of the joy is being vulnerable and being supermodel-imperfect. I am going to talk about this next time we get to talk, which is not often as we we are too busy having sex.
 
Keep us posted on how things are going.
 
nycindie said:
Start your romps earlier so you have time to actually sleep? I mean, you are all grown-ups with commitments and the ability to manage your lives - if you know you need to sleep in order to function well at work the next day, then stop fucking and go to sleep!
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But that's no fun :confused:
 
Threefwb said:
The other challenge around sleep is about feeling self conscious around new bed mates when it comes to how we are when we are asleep. The truth is our wife uses a sleep apnea mask ( or snores) and our fwb snores when on her back.
The downside is We are busy telling each other how we feel that our playmates are all sex gods and goddesses, but we don't want to show we are all too human. I wish we could have no vanity.
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So, you keep fucking thru the night and make yourself late for work because you are shy about letting them find out there is snoring and sleep apnea going on?
 
Update, sleepovers more frequent, still little sleep but happy

Hi polys,
Said I would give an update, we seem to now have liaisons twice a week rather than every second weekend.
It's hard to find time, but it's now a even bigger priority in our lives now as we've fallen for each other, it's not mainly about sex anymore, although that's what we mostly do,😋
And yes the sex is great C our new lover has spent most of her life in lesbian relationships, so is really really good at teaching me, the man new stuff, especially about outercourse, she seems to have more than enough energy to keep going all night, so yes she never seems to get any sleep we both get a little.
 
Thanks for that update. It sounds like you are tired but happy. :)
 
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