Married/Dating Mono

aykess

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Anyone else here Poly but married to a Mono and dating another Mono?

Would love to chat and see what it's like for you! I'm in the same boat*
 
Yes there a few folks in that configuration that I can think of. Check out the Life Stories and Blogs section and you will find many people who have posted about their lives.
 
Yes, but at this point I think I would definitely label my boyfriend as poly-curious.
 
I'd stick around here for help. On most forums I go to, "harem building" gets bashed. But I really don't see the issue in a man only dating mono women or a woman only dating mono men, so long as they are willing to put in the time and effort needed. It does help if you have a preference in dating very busy people, who simply don't have time for a "full" relationship (maybe they work 120+hours a week and only really have time for a single night to get together per week) and are more than happy for you to date others to compensate for your more demanding needs.

Also, as in Bluebird's case, you really should be prepared for one or more of your partners to eventually connect and date others.
 
Hubby's mono. S2 is undecided as to what he *is*, but at the moment he's chosen not to be involved with anyone else sexually or emotionally.

I'm still trying to figure out how that happened.
 
Hi aykess,

I'm not in the configuration you described per se, but the MFM V I'm in (Brother-Husband, Snowbunny, and me) looks a bit like it. Snowbunny is legally-lawfully married to Brother-Husband, but thinks of me as a second husband. Meanwhile, we two men could date polyamorously if we wanted to, but so far that hasn't happened, and it seems unlikely that it ever will happen.

So Snowbunny is kind of like a poly who is married to one mono and "dating" another mono. Maybe not in theory, but in practice.

What's it like? Agreeable. Snowbunny is kind of like the person "in charge;" she keeps things organized and is conscientious about giving fair portions of her time and energy to each of her men. It's a big job and a lot of responsibility, but that doesn't seem to scare her. Meanwhile, the three of us seem to get along pretty well. We share a home.
 
Butch is mono.. He only has BDSM play partners since I don't partake in that. There no sex or romantic relationships involved.

Murf is 100% mono.

I am legally married to Butch. But I am also had a wedding with Murf. I split my time as close to 50/50 between each of them as I can. I travel between the homes I share with them several days a week.

It works well for us.
 
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