Married, Poly and More.

[DebbieandRay]

Hi. We are Debbie and Ray. We live in Colorado. We have an open relationship. I also have two boyfriends and my husband has a girlfriend. Both of my boyfriends are married and my husband's girlfriend is married as well. Everyone involved, lovers and spouses, are in on the deal. Everyone knows about everyone else and there are no secrets.

I am very much in-love with my husband and my boyfriends and my husband is very much in-love with me and his girlfriend. We are all in-love with our lovers and our spouses. We do not really try to hide who we are, and few people do not know about us. We are open at work, to our families and our friends. We are secure in who we are and what we believe.

I like to date a lot of men, but I only truly love three men. Out of our group I am the one who is the most adventurous. I may date a lot of men, but it is something that everyone knows about and has no problem with. When I started dating my first boyfriend, he knew that me and my husband liked to play, or at least that my husband liked to watch. Now my husband, both my boyfriends and my husband's girlfriend's husband like to watch as well.

We are older. Well, my husband's girlfriend is only 22, but we are all mature. I am 46. My husband is 51. My oldest boyfriend is 64 and his wife is 63 years old. My newest boyfriend is 53 and his wife is 48 years old. My husband's girlfriend and her husband are both 22 years old.

Although we are poly, I like to swing as well. My husband's girlfriend and her husband have recently started swinging with us as well. My husband's girlfriend's husband doesn't participate when we swing, but he loves the atmosphere. My husband's girlfriend's husband is a cuckold. So, that makes sense.

I have several men that I date, when I can. My husband also allows his girlfriend to date with me when I go out with other men. The men that me and my husband's girlfriend date are men that everyone in our group has met and approves of. When me and my husband's girlfriend go out on dates, it is purely for physical reasons. It is something we enjoy. And no one in our group has any problems with us having sexual relationships with these other men.

When me and my husband's girlfriend go out on dates, everyone in the group knows we do so and that it is just for sex. Everyone is in the know and often when we get with other men, sexually, either my husband or my boyfriends or my husband's girlfriend's husband is there to watch, if we have the men stay at our house.

My second boyfriend's wife dates others as well, with all of our blessing. We are open and honest with each other. Yes, we are poly, but me and my second boyfriend's wife and my husband's girlfriend do date others, just for sex. It works for us.

My oldest boyfriend's wife is understanding and accepting of poly, but she does not have any romantic feelings for anyone other than her husband. My second boyfriend is intimate with me, my husband's girlfriend and his wife. My oldest boyfriend is intimate with me and his wife, his girlfriend and my husband's girlfriend. My husband is intimate with me and his girlfriend. And my husband's girlfriend's husband is intimate with his wife.

We have a situation that suits us all well. I have three men that I am in-love with who are in-love me. My oldest boyfriend is in-love with and is loved by four women. My newest boyfriend is in-love with and is loved by three women. My husband is in-love with me and his girlfriend and we are in-love with him. My oldest boyfriend's wife is in-love with her husband and she loves all of us. My husband's girlfriend's husband is in-love with his wife and and she is in-love with him. To us that is what being poly is all about, loving each other.

 

[IndieSolo]

Wow! Thanks for sharing - it sounds like it works very well.

There are a few people here who like to draw diagrams of their poly dynamics, with solid lines connecting certain kinds of partners, dashed lines connecting other kinds, different colors for various types of lovers, and so on - I wonder what yours would look like! Could be a challenge, LOL.

Welcome!

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings DebbieandRay,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Enjoyed your intro post, it explained things well and described a poly situation that is rich and happy. This in turn makes me smile.

I read your post on the spirituality board too; it is all the more encouraging to hear that churches are becoming more accepting of things like polyamory. It's all about love, like you say, or at least that's the way it should be.

Glad you could join us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[DebbieandRay]

Thank You

Thank You for the welcome. This seems like a nice place to hang out.