Hello everyone! I'm both new to this forum and to polyamory. My wife and I have been monogamously married since June 27, 1998. We share three amazing kids together. Like anyone else's marriage (especially if you've been married for as long as we have), we've been through our incredible ups and downs, but we've always managed to talk and work things through. I'm your typical cishet male, while my wife considers herself heteroflexible.
We started the poly lifestyle in April 2016, after my wife informed me that she thought she was poly back in December 2015. It took my many months struggling to open to this ideology (if you will), and honestly, I didn't think I could do it. I've had my fair share of freak-out moments, and my wife did, also. But after reading/listening and learning as much as I could about poly and what it also entails (such as "More Than Two" book, "Poly Weekly" podcast, etc.), it wasn't until I met my first girlfriend that I completely fully understood it. So, I consider myself "converted poly". My wife and I are the happiest we've ever been. She's seeing three guys (one of whom I consider a good friend of mine), and I'm dating two other remarkable, caring, loving women. We never dreamed how wonderful this life could be, and it's only brought my wife and I even closer.
My wife and I have your typical primary/secondary poly relationships. Both of my girlfriends (secondaries, although I hate using that word, it's what's generally recognized) are married to really cool guys whom I get along with very well. If you really want to get technical with the labels, I'm involved in a "W" with my first girlfriend who's been open/poly with her husband for about a decade, and a quad with my second girlfriend (her husband is also dating my wife) who's been swingers/open/poly for about 7 years. My wife and I both have been very fortunate to find experienced partners who's been living this lifestyle for years, and been very patient and understanding as my wife and I continue to learn from our mistakes. Unfortunately, we all have to keep our lifestyle secretive from most family members and some friends. Idealistically, we'd all love to live closer and see each other more frequently.
We started the poly lifestyle in April 2016, after my wife informed me that she thought she was poly back in December 2015. It took my many months struggling to open to this ideology (if you will), and honestly, I didn't think I could do it. I've had my fair share of freak-out moments, and my wife did, also. But after reading/listening and learning as much as I could about poly and what it also entails (such as "More Than Two" book, "Poly Weekly" podcast, etc.), it wasn't until I met my first girlfriend that I completely fully understood it. So, I consider myself "converted poly". My wife and I are the happiest we've ever been. She's seeing three guys (one of whom I consider a good friend of mine), and I'm dating two other remarkable, caring, loving women. We never dreamed how wonderful this life could be, and it's only brought my wife and I even closer.
My wife and I have your typical primary/secondary poly relationships. Both of my girlfriends (secondaries, although I hate using that word, it's what's generally recognized) are married to really cool guys whom I get along with very well. If you really want to get technical with the labels, I'm involved in a "W" with my first girlfriend who's been open/poly with her husband for about a decade, and a quad with my second girlfriend (her husband is also dating my wife) who's been swingers/open/poly for about 7 years. My wife and I both have been very fortunate to find experienced partners who's been living this lifestyle for years, and been very patient and understanding as my wife and I continue to learn from our mistakes. Unfortunately, we all have to keep our lifestyle secretive from most family members and some friends. Idealistically, we'd all love to live closer and see each other more frequently.
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