happytovee
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I am sorry for your loss.
Missing: Warm Fuzzies. Reward if Found.
- Thread starter TroisForte
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Thank you for your kind words. Very appreciated.
TroisForte
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Wanted to come back for another little update! First of all, CG: Happy to have you here telling our story with me! <3
Second, CG and R are on the 4th night of their 4 day vacation. I have one more sleep until R comes home and I can wrap my arms around him and give him a big smooch!
However, his return is bittersweet because now CG will miss him again and I hate the distance between all of us. Hopefully, that will be able to be resolved sooner than later. To answer someone's question: Yes we live so far apart due to work.
The first night R was away and the 3rd night were particularly brutal for me and I don't know why. I was in so much physical and emotional pain I thought I would die. I am a LUCKY LUCKY girl that both CG and R love and care about me so much they worked through this with me. We all three have a very wonderful respect for each other and our feelings.There should have been no reason to be upset. We came to the conclusion that the feelings were a product of my own insecurities. I think that was a spot on assessment.
Initially, I freaked about the introductions that might be made without me there but I can proudly declare that something completely and magically washed over me and all my fear and further trepidation just disappeared and I was lovingly, willingly and happily able to tell them that I'm ok with it now ... not that they needed my approval but our respect level is so high we wouldn't want to hurt each other if we step into an uncomfortable situation. We all three try to talk stuff out first and then proceed. I hope CG feels I gave them wide open space! I didn't text or call unless R or CG approached me. Now that their vacation is coming to an end and I am looking back at my first post, I have a lot more security and confidence than I initially did. If I could change one thing it would be to offer CG and R 4 days of no melt downs or drama instead of the 2 I was able to pull off. I can't say enough how fortunate I am to have CG and R as my partners! Thank you everyone for your support and thoughts. This can be a tough adjustment but it's so worth it!
Second, CG and R are on the 4th night of their 4 day vacation. I have one more sleep until R comes home and I can wrap my arms around him and give him a big smooch!
However, his return is bittersweet because now CG will miss him again and I hate the distance between all of us. Hopefully, that will be able to be resolved sooner than later. To answer someone's question: Yes we live so far apart due to work.
The first night R was away and the 3rd night were particularly brutal for me and I don't know why. I was in so much physical and emotional pain I thought I would die. I am a LUCKY LUCKY girl that both CG and R love and care about me so much they worked through this with me. We all three have a very wonderful respect for each other and our feelings.There should have been no reason to be upset. We came to the conclusion that the feelings were a product of my own insecurities. I think that was a spot on assessment.
Initially, I freaked about the introductions that might be made without me there but I can proudly declare that something completely and magically washed over me and all my fear and further trepidation just disappeared and I was lovingly, willingly and happily able to tell them that I'm ok with it now ... not that they needed my approval but our respect level is so high we wouldn't want to hurt each other if we step into an uncomfortable situation. We all three try to talk stuff out first and then proceed. I hope CG feels I gave them wide open space! I didn't text or call unless R or CG approached me. Now that their vacation is coming to an end and I am looking back at my first post, I have a lot more security and confidence than I initially did. If I could change one thing it would be to offer CG and R 4 days of no melt downs or drama instead of the 2 I was able to pull off. I can't say enough how fortunate I am to have CG and R as my partners! Thank you everyone for your support and thoughts. This can be a tough adjustment but it's so worth it!
happytovee
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So R was here for four amazing days... <3 He's been home for one day now. I know how happy TF is to have him home. I miss him but am fine; he's never lived near me during our relationship so I'm used to him being far away.
I was able to meet R's mom and brother after all. I was fine not meeting them but TF decided I should. I'm so thankful that TF has such trust and grace. R's mom was very nice to me. Complicated history but I'm glad to have had some time with her.
I'm thrilled to have had four wonderful days with R. The memories will tide me over until I get there or he gets here. TF and I continue to be very close, supporting each other and wanting only happiness for each other.
R is just a wonderful, loving man who does everything in his power to make both TF and I the happiest women in the world.
I was able to meet R's mom and brother after all. I was fine not meeting them but TF decided I should. I'm so thankful that TF has such trust and grace. R's mom was very nice to me. Complicated history but I'm glad to have had some time with her.
I'm thrilled to have had four wonderful days with R. The memories will tide me over until I get there or he gets here. TF and I continue to be very close, supporting each other and wanting only happiness for each other.
R is just a wonderful, loving man who does everything in his power to make both TF and I the happiest women in the world.
happytovee
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Almost two months since this thread started, and six months since TroisForte, R and I began. I thought I'd update for anyone who might be wondering whatever happened to us! Wasn't mentioned in this thread but TF bought me a ticket to fly out and visit them before R's trip here. So she and I had met, gone to lunch, had a girls' shopping day, lots of communication both online and via phone prior to his trip to see me which was 4 1/2 days.
TF and I planned to surprise R again (he didn't know I was flying out that first time - look on his face when TF and I walked in carrying groceries was priceless!) but he saw some of our messages and figured us out. Regardless, we had another wonderful visit with both time all together (the people at the bowling alley got an education and had plenty to tell their friends - but were so great to us) as well as alone time for me and R. I adore their kids, and am building connections with them which is pretty wonderful.
We are still long distance but talk in some capacity daily. We are very connected and supportive of all the relationships. TF are true friends and have nothing but support and happiness for R's relationship with the other. We are always planning and looking forward to the next trip. The whole thing is beautiful. I don't know how we fell into this but it's amazing. I hope it always feels like this.
TF and I planned to surprise R again (he didn't know I was flying out that first time - look on his face when TF and I walked in carrying groceries was priceless!) but he saw some of our messages and figured us out. Regardless, we had another wonderful visit with both time all together (the people at the bowling alley got an education and had plenty to tell their friends - but were so great to us) as well as alone time for me and R. I adore their kids, and am building connections with them which is pretty wonderful.
We are still long distance but talk in some capacity daily. We are very connected and supportive of all the relationships. TF are true friends and have nothing but support and happiness for R's relationship with the other. We are always planning and looking forward to the next trip. The whole thing is beautiful. I don't know how we fell into this but it's amazing. I hope it always feels like this.
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