My dreamed polyamorous relationship

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I will start that I wanted this to be a post on my profile but it was too long. I put a little Prologue thing stating that I am demisexual and I need to feel somehow connected to be with someone and then I shared my 'dream picture' for a polyamorous relationship, which follows!

I hope that this is the right section of the forum to share this! If it's not I'll be happy if the moderators move it in the correct place or tell me where to copy and move it!

Have a nice reading time and share your dreams or reality! :love:

The dream:

- It's an MFM equation because I love to feel secure, protected, wanted, and desired. I love attention from men that I like and they like me. I love the idea to be shared without jealousy and to ... love two men with the same intensity but at the same time according to their differences. I believe, that you can love two people, differently, but equally! Like - one you love passionately, the other more gentle, because they are passionate and gentle type, respectively!

Orgies are totally not my thing!!! They are too extremely overwhelming and chaotic in a not very positive way for me!

-Time and scheduling! I've read some cases in here and I think before that managing time, a bit of the attention you are giving is needed part of the existence of such a relationship. As these days we are all three in bed, these days I am with him, these days I am with the other one, and it's not just bedding time, but we are doing other things together. Because we are friends, not just lovers (I hope)... I had that 'etudes' nights when one is not just a passive watcher, but the director of what I and the other guy do...

You'll say: 'What about the spontaneity?! Spontaneous acts?' No one forbids them!!! They are welcomed... In one-on-one or one-on-two...

Also, there would be days when everyone will do what they want separately. It would be nice if the men bond and do some things (not sexual) together...

The schedule thing is just a broad recommendation and a bit of direction...

-Being a household... That is not obligatory but it would be nice. To live as a family of three bonded (not tied) by respect, feelings, and sex... ;)! I am not sure if I can return to work. If it's necessary and there is a good opportunity to go back. For now, I love my modern housewife role, and having two men will double the excitement and help... Because it's important in one household people to help each other not to hide behind a stereotype. And I love to cook with the man/men I love (it's a kind of fantasy and predisposition for a kitchen threesome LOL)... Men will work what they want, will have my support and my shoulder to cry, as I hope for the same...

So this is in general, a broad presentation of the perfect 'idea for a polyamorous relationship' for me... Of course, life is far away from the perfection of dreams and we know that. I am not lost in my fantasies (I hope LOL), but it's nice to have an idea and direction if somehow this happens (in another life, or alternate reality LOL)...

Have a nice day and happy new year's celebrations, to all of you!

Stay safe!
 
Hi Shelly,

You have a lovely polyamorous ideal, I am part of an MFM V myself, so I know it is possible ... I hope you find something that matches up with all of your expectations, and maybe even more!

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Of course, life is far away from the perfection of dreams and we know that. I am not lost in my fantasies (I hope LOL), but it's nice to have an idea and direction if somehow this happens (in another life, or alternate reality LOL)...

Sometimes life exceeds the expectations of our goals. I am the hinge in a FMF V and the situation is even better than I had dreamed.
 
welcome to the forum. i recently realized in 2020 that i was poly, and up to that point i had been dealing with Limerence, a form of fantasy thinking. I had a fantasy woman that i was poly with, and the fantasy included the idea that i was married, which i am married.

Limerence for me was hard, my mind was ALWAYS stuck in fantasy world, imagining hanging out, doing things with this fantasy woman.

sometimes for me it was better or more enjoyable to be stuck in fantasy world than to be out here in real life.

I wish my poly fantasy woman was a real option :(

on the topic of Limerence, about 20 years ago i was interested in a woman for about 3.5 years, she always had a boyfriend and i was waiting for her to break up with him so we could date. but all the 3.5 years I was dating her in my head, she lived in another state, so that allowed me to spend 24 hours a day dreaming about the future that we would date.


I enjoyed reading your post :)

take care
 
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