Hi. Things have been difficult now for 10 months. I am married. I have feelings for my husband's mate, and the feelings are mutual back. I love my dh sooo much and I don't wanna leave him, but I also love his friend, which has developed over the 10 months, especially after we slept with each other. I have always been honest with both men about everything, especially the sex. At times, I have slept with neither of them when things have gotten difficult.
Things seem to be changing now, however. My dh has said it's ok for me to try the poly way of life with him and his friend. He just doesn't want to see his mate again, which I understand. We have been talking about rules too. It all seems serious.
I have suggested they join here, as it may help them, especially dh, as he wants to remain mono, which is up to him.
It has taken me ages to explain how I love them both, but it feels like a new beginning too (I hope). I have been fighting it for nearly a year. I have tried to stay mono, but it just doesn't work for me anymore. They both satisfy different sides of me and I don't want to be without either of them.
The complication is that I have a son from a previous marriage. He is 5 and lives with his dad. His dad is only letting me see my son at his house at the mo because he doesn't want my son to be confused anymore, which I understand. I want to have my son visiting me again, but his dad wont allow it unless I pick either one man or none.
I don't know what to do. I feel like I have to hide this new way of life because he won't understand me. Should I just tell him that I am staying with my husband? The trouble is my son likes both men, but I don't want him to be confused anymore. Any suggestions please?
Things seem to be changing now, however. My dh has said it's ok for me to try the poly way of life with him and his friend. He just doesn't want to see his mate again, which I understand. We have been talking about rules too. It all seems serious.
I have suggested they join here, as it may help them, especially dh, as he wants to remain mono, which is up to him.
It has taken me ages to explain how I love them both, but it feels like a new beginning too (I hope). I have been fighting it for nearly a year. I have tried to stay mono, but it just doesn't work for me anymore. They both satisfy different sides of me and I don't want to be without either of them.
The complication is that I have a son from a previous marriage. He is 5 and lives with his dad. His dad is only letting me see my son at his house at the mo because he doesn't want my son to be confused anymore, which I understand. I want to have my son visiting me again, but his dad wont allow it unless I pick either one man or none.
I don't know what to do. I feel like I have to hide this new way of life because he won't understand me. Should I just tell him that I am staying with my husband? The trouble is my son likes both men, but I don't want him to be confused anymore. Any suggestions please?
