My partner is poly, now i’m poly curious

[kaceykat27]

Hi all, my partner and I have been together for almost a year now. She has always been polyamorous and had a girlfriend when we got together, they later broke up. I've always considered myself monogamous, but lately i've been curious about going on dates with other women. My partner isn't looking for anyone else right now, but i also wonder about when she does if we could date the same person? I know my partner would be okay with me seeing another person as they've stated this multiple times. I'm just not sure how to start. Any advice would be warmly welcomed!

 

[kdt26417]

Hello kaceykat27,

You could either date together or separately, it's up to you. You could try your luck with some poly-friendly dating apps/sites, also you could look for local poly groups in your area, google "polyamory" with the name of your state or nearest major city. It's good to get out there and meet people in person. Of course make sure your partner is okay with whatever you decide to do. I also encourage you to explore the boards and threads on this forum, and post any questions that arise for you as you go along. There is a lot to learn about poly.

Regards,
Kevin T.

 

[Albert Ross]

Recommendation: Date separately before you try dating together. Make sure your relationship can withstand each of you having other relationships before trying to build a triad. If you struggle to support each other having autonomous relationships outside your own, it will be very, very difficult to build a triad in a healthy way (in short, because a triad is four separate relationships all happening right on top of each other).