eagiants2013
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Hi All... Thank you for allowing us to be a part of your community.
My fiance and I have, fairly recently, become Poly-curious. We are close friends with a younger couple (much younger) that have played around with physical exploration. Although I had done the same when I was single, my fiance never did before (he wouldn't even consider it), but they a couple of months ago, while hanging out with our couple, we all enjoyed each other on a much more intimate level. Shortly after then, the couple proposed to us about entering a Poly relationship with them. My fiance and I discussed this A LOT (I am a huge believer of communication in ANY kind of relationship). Needless to say, we decided that we would give it a chance... and who better to do it with then a couple we loved already and we close to in a friendship. So we all went on a date 3 weeks ago. I thought the date was great... full day together and then dinner and then some alone time and sleepover. My fiance and I were ready to really research this life style and give it a real shot... and address things that bother us (if they do) as they come up.
Well, just last week, my GF (after a lot of prying) finally confessed she was not sure what she wanted. So, I suggested we all just go back to being friends.
Honestly, it is confusing and a bit hurtful. We were pursued, had MANY conversations on very intimate levels, and were all physical together. We were told on many occasions how loved we were, etc. And then, nothing. It was really odd... and yet... so familiar. I found myself feeling used and lied to. Although we maintain minimal contact due to not wanting to loose the friendship, it hurt.
My finance and I are still very interested in learning more about this life style and potentially exploring other relationships as time goes by. Right now, we are trying to understand it all and meet other people with this life style. I do not think anyone is on our area, so that may be an issue as well for us if it is something we really want to explore more of.
Anyway, any insight/advise is greatly appreciated. Thank you for reading!
My fiance and I have, fairly recently, become Poly-curious. We are close friends with a younger couple (much younger) that have played around with physical exploration. Although I had done the same when I was single, my fiance never did before (he wouldn't even consider it), but they a couple of months ago, while hanging out with our couple, we all enjoyed each other on a much more intimate level. Shortly after then, the couple proposed to us about entering a Poly relationship with them. My fiance and I discussed this A LOT (I am a huge believer of communication in ANY kind of relationship). Needless to say, we decided that we would give it a chance... and who better to do it with then a couple we loved already and we close to in a friendship. So we all went on a date 3 weeks ago. I thought the date was great... full day together and then dinner and then some alone time and sleepover. My fiance and I were ready to really research this life style and give it a real shot... and address things that bother us (if they do) as they come up.
Well, just last week, my GF (after a lot of prying) finally confessed she was not sure what she wanted. So, I suggested we all just go back to being friends.
Honestly, it is confusing and a bit hurtful. We were pursued, had MANY conversations on very intimate levels, and were all physical together. We were told on many occasions how loved we were, etc. And then, nothing. It was really odd... and yet... so familiar. I found myself feeling used and lied to. Although we maintain minimal contact due to not wanting to loose the friendship, it hurt.
My finance and I are still very interested in learning more about this life style and potentially exploring other relationships as time goes by. Right now, we are trying to understand it all and meet other people with this life style. I do not think anyone is on our area, so that may be an issue as well for us if it is something we really want to explore more of.
Anyway, any insight/advise is greatly appreciated. Thank you for reading!
