Kitkatharsis
New member
Hi!
New here from Northern Canada. ;o)
short version:
Me: 43/F/Bi/Poly/permanently partnered to Hubby for almost 17 years
Hubby: 39/M/Straight/Poly/partnered to me, and recently dating GF
GF: 28/F/dating Hubby
Hubby and I have been poly since before we met, and are coming up on 17 years in the spring. He has recently found himself a lover for the first time in 5 or 6 years, and I am searching for someone for myself for the first time in even longer. I'm here because I forgot how much work it is, and I certainly don't have a lot of people I can talk to. We're out to some of our friends, but none of them make me fell that I can completely speak freely because they don't truly understand the intricacies.
We are NOT unicorn hunters, we don't cross pollinate our extra curricular activities. We would only ever operate in a Z type structure, with little contact between each others metamours (unless they desire more). We are truly best friends and life partners and we have 3 young kids (neither of us desire marriage). Our own sex life is mostly limited to when we're trying to breed, although that has ebbed and flowed through the years and is not unenjoyable per se, we just find it's not interesting to us and we are usually mired in the domestic side of life. We generally seek others to scratch our sexual itches. It's been generally smooth sailing, aside from a few bumps while we ironed things out in the beginning, and the odd bump in a NRE situation. I've had a long term GF and a few male lovers of varying lengths and seriousness, he's had a few lovers and this is his second serious GF. The last one was around for 2-3 years, but that ended 5-6 years ago.
So right now we've put a lot on our plates. I am confident we can handle it but I definitely want to feel I can talk/vent/rant/communicate/discuss/etc with people who will take me at my word and come from a place of understanding. We're trying for a fourth child, after several losses. There's a lot of potential job change coming up, including stressful exams for certifications, and the day to day of having young kids and work and school is generally exhausting. Naturally this is a time when a seemingly ideal playmate for him just happens to wander into our lives. I'm dealing with his NRE, and my personal emotional fallout from that, having no similar outlet... but it has re-asserted our amazing ability to work together and push through the bumps, and that we are so great together. Then of course one of my ex GF has popped up so perhaps something will come of that... it's probably a bad idea, but she's a major weakness of mine and my need to be desired right now is very very high.
Anyway, if you've read that far, thank you, and I'm sorry - I ramble. I'll probably lurk around until I gain a bit more confidence to jump in on discussions.
Kitkatharsis
New here from Northern Canada. ;o)
short version:
Me: 43/F/Bi/Poly/permanently partnered to Hubby for almost 17 years
Hubby: 39/M/Straight/Poly/partnered to me, and recently dating GF
GF: 28/F/dating Hubby
Hubby and I have been poly since before we met, and are coming up on 17 years in the spring. He has recently found himself a lover for the first time in 5 or 6 years, and I am searching for someone for myself for the first time in even longer. I'm here because I forgot how much work it is, and I certainly don't have a lot of people I can talk to. We're out to some of our friends, but none of them make me fell that I can completely speak freely because they don't truly understand the intricacies.
We are NOT unicorn hunters, we don't cross pollinate our extra curricular activities. We would only ever operate in a Z type structure, with little contact between each others metamours (unless they desire more). We are truly best friends and life partners and we have 3 young kids (neither of us desire marriage). Our own sex life is mostly limited to when we're trying to breed, although that has ebbed and flowed through the years and is not unenjoyable per se, we just find it's not interesting to us and we are usually mired in the domestic side of life. We generally seek others to scratch our sexual itches. It's been generally smooth sailing, aside from a few bumps while we ironed things out in the beginning, and the odd bump in a NRE situation. I've had a long term GF and a few male lovers of varying lengths and seriousness, he's had a few lovers and this is his second serious GF. The last one was around for 2-3 years, but that ended 5-6 years ago.
So right now we've put a lot on our plates. I am confident we can handle it but I definitely want to feel I can talk/vent/rant/communicate/discuss/etc with people who will take me at my word and come from a place of understanding. We're trying for a fourth child, after several losses. There's a lot of potential job change coming up, including stressful exams for certifications, and the day to day of having young kids and work and school is generally exhausting. Naturally this is a time when a seemingly ideal playmate for him just happens to wander into our lives. I'm dealing with his NRE, and my personal emotional fallout from that, having no similar outlet... but it has re-asserted our amazing ability to work together and push through the bumps, and that we are so great together. Then of course one of my ex GF has popped up so perhaps something will come of that... it's probably a bad idea, but she's a major weakness of mine and my need to be desired right now is very very high.
Anyway, if you've read that far, thank you, and I'm sorry - I ramble. I'll probably lurk around until I gain a bit more confidence to jump in on discussions.
Kitkatharsis
