Hello, I've recently become involved in a closed poly-fidelity triad and am looking forward to hearing/reading about other's experiences.
For now I'll give just a brief background. My wife ("L") and I have been married for 13 years, have been together for 19 years and have two kids (11 and 8). We are soulmates and best friends.
This year I fell in love with a woman I work with ("C"). C is the same age as my wife and I, is recently divorced, and also has two children (3 and 5) which she shares custody of with her ex.
We've been working together for 3 years and have grown to be very good friends in that time. This year we began to develop serious feelings for each other though we could not act on them due to my being married.
It's too much to get into now, but suffice to say that C and I feel we were "meant to be" and I haven't felt that way about anyone else since my wife. Eventually C and my wife met and became fast friends. Once that happened, the idea of trying to bring C into my relationship with my wife took hold. Three months later, at the beginning of August, C took my wife out to dinner and confessed that C and I had been having an emotional affair, have been wanting to bring this to light to L, and asked if L could find a way in her heart to bring C into our lives.
My wife agreed to this and we've been navigating this relationship for the past 4 weeks.
I am the main romantic partner to each of them. However, L and C quickly have also developed their own romantic connection and have had moments where they have been privately intimate with each other. The three of us also go to bed together when time allows and each of our respective children are being cared for by others. Noone, including our children, know we have embarked on this.
I am, of course, glossing over a lot of turbulence, and heart-ache and growing pains. L understandably has had many moments of pain and panic but it gets easier as time goes on and the introduction of C into our lives has re-ignited my romantic connection with L in a huge way.
We've recently located a therapist that deals with these issues and we all plan to attend to help us navigate this situation in the best, most respectful and painless way possible.
There are obviously a ton of details and backstory that I am not discussing yet because I don't have time right now. I am looking forward to learning about others' experiences with this and will write more when I have time. And if anyone has any questions please fire away.
For now I'll give just a brief background. My wife ("L") and I have been married for 13 years, have been together for 19 years and have two kids (11 and 8). We are soulmates and best friends.
This year I fell in love with a woman I work with ("C"). C is the same age as my wife and I, is recently divorced, and also has two children (3 and 5) which she shares custody of with her ex.
We've been working together for 3 years and have grown to be very good friends in that time. This year we began to develop serious feelings for each other though we could not act on them due to my being married.
It's too much to get into now, but suffice to say that C and I feel we were "meant to be" and I haven't felt that way about anyone else since my wife. Eventually C and my wife met and became fast friends. Once that happened, the idea of trying to bring C into my relationship with my wife took hold. Three months later, at the beginning of August, C took my wife out to dinner and confessed that C and I had been having an emotional affair, have been wanting to bring this to light to L, and asked if L could find a way in her heart to bring C into our lives.
My wife agreed to this and we've been navigating this relationship for the past 4 weeks.
I am the main romantic partner to each of them. However, L and C quickly have also developed their own romantic connection and have had moments where they have been privately intimate with each other. The three of us also go to bed together when time allows and each of our respective children are being cared for by others. Noone, including our children, know we have embarked on this.
I am, of course, glossing over a lot of turbulence, and heart-ache and growing pains. L understandably has had many moments of pain and panic but it gets easier as time goes on and the introduction of C into our lives has re-ignited my romantic connection with L in a huge way.
We've recently located a therapist that deals with these issues and we all plan to attend to help us navigate this situation in the best, most respectful and painless way possible.
There are obviously a ton of details and backstory that I am not discussing yet because I don't have time right now. I am looking forward to learning about others' experiences with this and will write more when I have time. And if anyone has any questions please fire away.
