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[lindebloodmoon]

My name is Linde. I am twenty-nine years old, and I have identified as polyamorous for the past ten years. I enjoy reading, writing, drawing, painting, and singing. I have an autoimmune disease called polymyalgia rheumatica. It causes painful inflammation throughout my whole body. I also have gastroparesis. It causes my stomach not to empty properly, which sometimes makes eating very difficult. I am also submissive.

My partner's name is Scott. He is thirty-two years old and is just starting his journey with polyamory. He enjoys playing video games, fishing, spending time outdoors, and spending time with his family. He is Dominant.

We live together in a two-bedroom trailer located in Indiana. We have a two-year-old daughter and three very spoiled dogs. The area where we live is relatively conservative, so we don't have many friends.

We are currently looking for another couple to join our little family. We also would like to find some like-minded friends to hang out with.

 

[WhatHappened]

The area where we live is relatively conservative, so we don't have many friends.

I also live and work in areas where a great many people don't share my views. Really, you don't have to share political views to be and have friends.

Look at the things you have in common with people--other mothers of young children, other people who love to sing, write, draw, paint; a reading club; I bet you'll find dog lovers among those conservative people around you. Are you involved with any groups for supporting and helping you deal with your medical issues?

Focus on what you have in common with the people around you, be willing to see the good in them, treat them with the same courtesy and respect you'd give to those who agree with you, and I bet you'll find many of them will be just as open to you in return.

One issue you'll see raised here is the question of time. It sounds like the two of you have a lot going on and a lot to deal with. Is there time to date?


Another issue is that triads, let alone quads, are very difficult to maintain. They rarely last long. I'm saying this not to discourage you, but to say if this is what you want, be realistic about the path you're setting out on.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Linde,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

If you'll spend some time interacting with the various folks here, I'm sure you'll find some like-minded friends, and with any luck, maybe another couple to join your family as well. It sounds like you have a happy little family, but I am sorry to hear about your medical conditions. I hope you'll keep reading and posting, and let us know if you have any questions. Namaste!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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Welcome aboard!

 

[Alluvion]

Welcome, lindebloodmoon. There's a lot of wisdom on these boards. I hope you have a good time checking out the archives. I've sure learned a lot from them!