Hey there. My name is Michael, and my partner is Violet. We're new to this whole poly thing and just exploring it to see if we want to get into it 100%. We're wanting to make friends with peeps and see where that takes us. Is there anyone new to this? Love to hear your story on how you got there. And for all those people experienced in polyamory, we are very open to advice and suggestions and to hear your stories as well! Both of us just want to hit the ground running and start chatting it up to get a good feel of all this. So feel free to ask questions.
So, to explain here's a little about Violet and I: we've known each other since 2008, but didn't start dating until about 2012ish. Namely because, well, we first knew each other because Violet was dating and engaged to my best friend at the time. In early 2011 he broke up with her in a very bad way, and I stayed friends with her. We didn't start dating until a year or so later. When we finally started dating it was rough because of all the baggage from everything. And I've also been dealing with my own stuff and figuring out my sexuality. We both came from very hardcore Christian homes and have had to do a lot of growing up and coming out of that somewhat because of our rather religious pasts. Violet is a "universalist" while I believe in a God, but I'm still not sure/mostly agnostic.
We've gone through a lot of life together and supported each other. We have great chemistry together and get along fantastic. Although, I struggle with the idea of monogamy when Violet is a lot more comfortable with it still. So, we've had a lot of times we didn't see eye to eye and it caused a lot of strain on our relationship in the past. But she has changed a lot in her views over time and because we love each other, we decided to give this thing a shot.
One thing we have been working on as a couple is trust. So we are going about this really slow.
Please don't hesitate to give your advise, your own story or experiences! Like I said, we both just want to get the conversations going so please feel free to say whatever.
So, to explain here's a little about Violet and I: we've known each other since 2008, but didn't start dating until about 2012ish. Namely because, well, we first knew each other because Violet was dating and engaged to my best friend at the time. In early 2011 he broke up with her in a very bad way, and I stayed friends with her. We didn't start dating until a year or so later. When we finally started dating it was rough because of all the baggage from everything. And I've also been dealing with my own stuff and figuring out my sexuality. We both came from very hardcore Christian homes and have had to do a lot of growing up and coming out of that somewhat because of our rather religious pasts. Violet is a "universalist" while I believe in a God, but I'm still not sure/mostly agnostic.
We've gone through a lot of life together and supported each other. We have great chemistry together and get along fantastic. Although, I struggle with the idea of monogamy when Violet is a lot more comfortable with it still. So, we've had a lot of times we didn't see eye to eye and it caused a lot of strain on our relationship in the past. But she has changed a lot in her views over time and because we love each other, we decided to give this thing a shot.
One thing we have been working on as a couple is trust. So we are going about this really slow.
Please don't hesitate to give your advise, your own story or experiences! Like I said, we both just want to get the conversations going so please feel free to say whatever.
